semi- Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
Because I like BEER and WOMEN and ARM-WRESTLING and other MANLY things and I am definitely not COMPENSATING for any insecurities by performing a heteronormative role in society in a desperate attempt to fit in!
“why are you gay?” vibes. clown question, sorry.
People are the way they are, and thats it. Especially leftists, you aren’t going to surprise them with the “gender is a social construct” thing. They are what they have decided to be.
You have missed the entire joke because you were too busy being upset that the questions asked to trans people were turned onto cis people.
No leftist has ever asked “why are you trans?” in the way it’s been framed here by OP.
Non leftists do that kind of unpolite questions, but I would expect a leftist trans person to not copy non leftist impolite behavior when dealing with leftists.
It’s a bad joke tbh. Also in the wrong sub for jokes
Where have I been impolite? As someone on the internet, you should know that most things are a mix between satire and seriousness. I simply flipped the stupid trans question onto cis people for giggles and because I was interested in what people could come up with. I do not mean to suggest that cis people shouldn’t exist, just that if we must justify ourselves then so should you. (Almost) Everything has a reason, even if it’s just “it happened to be this way by circumstance.”
IDK, I always just felt comfortable with he/him pronouns
Same
You’re expected to “explain” yourself somehow and I learned the words and phrases about heteronormativity and cisgender(ness?) before anything else. I do wonder what labels I would have taken if non-binary were a term I was taught alongside (and with the same "matter of fact"ness as) masculine/feminine, boy/girl, male/female though.
This might have been an okay bit if not for the “serious question,” which I still refuse to believe.
Sorry, I fixed it
Idk I think this is a kind of weird ask. I don’t think people choose to be the way they are, mostly.
I’m mostly joking
Now, this may seem like King Charles II’s request for an explanation for why a dead fish is heavier than a living one
That’s a strange analogy
Aight, fair enough. I’m not always great at catching tone.
Ping me when a few people have answered
ping
idk, im just pretty comfy as I am (cishet man)? I feel no dysphoria, and I like having “masculine” traits. If society magically changed to where gender didn’t really exist tomorrow (or hell, if what I present as is now seen as “feminine”) I dont think it would bother me. Pretty much the same thing for being straight, I like people who look “feminine”, and I’m not attracted to penises. I’m sure at least some of this is cultural stuff, but then again I’m not sure any of this would be possible to change about myself so I’m not sure if that matters?
edit: another thought, I’d love to read answers from anyone here on lemmygrad or hexbear whose native language isn’t gendered in anyway, like not even with pronouns, to see if that has any effect on your thoughts on this.
I don’t understand gender but society says that everyone must be gendered so here we are
I was always told I was a boy, and it just felt correct, never do I not see a male figure in the mirror nor feel feminine/girly, and I am for the most part “manly” in the way I go about my life. I’m quite fortunate that I don’t see the need to pontificate on the issue very much.
I wanna answer sincerely, but I also wanna be silly like this post.
I think it’s a fun question to answer seriously.
Because being the agender I generally feel inside is effort I’d rather spend elsewhere I guess. Gender is performative. I’d rather not perform at all, but there’s no such thing as not performing, an unperformance. So I passively perform the identity put upon me, feeling powerless to step outside of my experience nor how society experiences me.
Heteronormativity doesn’t make sense to me. To my subrational mind, everyone possesses an ungendered essence, which is filtered through and expressed by social and physical constructs like gender and whatnot.
Merely signs or signifiers for the essence that is the person with whom a connection might be made.Rationally I don’t think these conceptions are particularly true, but they kind of describe how I subconsciously understand the world.
I just do be like that. I’m not going around doing things ‘because I’m a man’ but otherwise I don’t have an issue with me being a man.
I’ve never had an issue with the gender I was assigned and have never felt compelled to think about it until I started to understand gender as a social construct. Even after that though, WRT my own identity, I’ve thought about it as much as I care to and concluded everytime that, no, I really do feel most comfortable as what I was told I was from birth. I’m bi, not hetero though.
Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
I don’t think that anyone’s preferences or identity is any less genuinely theirs just because they were influenced by culture. Moreover, what we find attractive can vary greatly from person to person, even within the binary norm.
