• yonder@sh.itjust.works
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    5 days ago

    As described here, calling someone trans when they themselves don’t identify that way is problematic, since you are imposing a gender on that person.

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      5 days ago

      Hold on, let me try again in a better headspace.

      I’m not calling anyone trans in specific. I understand there are problems with people being misgendered and yet I’m not doing that and I don’t intend on doing that. It’s a passing thought. Can we try not making things what they’re not when we don’t agree with a passing comment, please?

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        Reinforcing gender stereotypes and misgendering others is not the kind of thought that should be shared out loud. Like people might have horrible intrusive thoughts but if and when they recognize them for what they are they will let them pass without acting on or speaking them.

        I used to and still on occasion have intrusive thoughts that are transphobic but I know not to speak them because they are hurtful and untrue. You need to do the same with your idea that people are trans because of appearance of clothing, just let the thoughts pass or stuff them down, and not speak them out loud. You wouldn’t act on intrusive thoughts you know to be harmful. This isn’t much different.

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            5 days ago

            You are, saying that you think people are trans because they’d “go all out n women’s clothes” is indeed reinforcing gender stereotypes, and it is misgendering to say that people who don’t identify as trans are trans.

            Now I’m being diagnosed with intrusive thoughts? lol

            You’re right, I was too charitable. You don’t have intrusive thoughts, but straight up harmful ideas that you openly admit to and act upon, especially since you’re still going and haven’t gotten the message that what you’re doing or saying is uncool and needs to stop.

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              5 days ago

              indeed reinforcing gender stereotypes

              Of (SOME OMG) trans women being feminine? Of femboys being feminine? Shoot me dead. lol

              You’re right, I was too charitable

              No, no, please let it rip. We got Ada here. Demonstrate what you got and the way you don’t argue in good faith. Please do.