Please don’t do unserious answers, or at least add a disclaimer before it and make sure the question has been answered seriously prior to that.
My question:
Is it normal using cutlery always hurts? Every single time I use knife, fork of spoon for anything else but scooping something soft, it hurts. It’s been like this my entire life. Are people really in pain every time they eat without anyone speaking of it???
Do people just like… walk up to strangers and talk at them? And people are okay with this???
What the hell.
You don’t walk up, usually you have to be in close proximity for a reason (waiting for a bus, in line for something, etc). Then you singly make a comment about something and probe for a conversation. It’s quite fun and you meet some very interesting people this way.
Imagining some rando coming into the bus stop and talking at me makes my bones itch.
We can smell people like you from a mile away.
It’s like cats picking the only non-cat person. We will specifically pick you out. Welcome to the conversation.
But genuinely, it’s not directly coming up to a person. It’s more like you’ve both been sat there for 10 minutes, and there’s some sort of event that someone can comment on, like a person tripping on the sidewalk, it raining, etc.
… The Working class is being exploited by the owning class is this topic enough to start talking with the random stranger on the bus?
‘Let me tell you about the word of our Lord and savior Karl Marx’
“So you see, Stalin is the Chad and Trotsky is the Soyjack because during the 13th Congress of the Party…”
Sometimes yes. I travel home to my parents by international bus and I talk to people sitting next to me sometimes. Or they talk to me first.
The other day I saw a guy in the street working on a van, converting the back seat and trunk into a place to lay down a mattress. I have been thinking about doing the same for a while now so I asked him some questions about his progress. It was a nice talk.
It’s not like I’m going around bothering random people. Or so I hope. And if you’re not a being a complete creep most people are fine with a chat every now and then.
I bike everywhere on a step-thru bike and older people love to walk up and talk with me about it. I’ve just come to accept it and advocate for more people to take a bike ride instead of a drive and I have seen more older people on step-thru bikes in my town than when I first moved here so I hope I’ve encouraged people to try riding again even if it’s just casually.
In the USA? This is threatening, sociopath behavior.
From what I hear though, pretty normal in a lot of the rest of the world.
One of the most unnerving things about being in the US is people with open carry starting up conversations with me for my accent. So the US doesn’t feel as different to us foreigners as back home. But it does feel threatening, thanks to the random arsenals people like to wear on their hips.
Its a cultural thing, some places do, some places dont.
Glasgow for example is known for having a culture where everyone talks to one another on public transport. Its actually pretty great tbh.
We should walk up to them and talk to them about how the boss is stealing from their pockets
Some places. The place where I climb I talk to strangers way more than anywhere else.
It has happened to me a few times so I think it’s normal. At least in my country.
I think this should become common again. How can we build class consciousness and solidarity when everyone is meant to be in their own little bubble of smartphone and airpods?
The sharp end points towards the food, not yourself.
No it’s not and I didn’t know it was a thing until now
So, from the comments, you’re describing situations where using eating utensils where you need to apply pressure hurts your hands, yeah?
As an experiment, wrap the handle of an eating utensil in a cloth (small wash cloth, handkerchief, clean sock, etc) and tie/tape it so it won’t come unrapped. Use it when eating something that needs to be cut up. Does it still hurt your hand(s) to hold, grip, apply pressure with the utensil(s)?
Could be something arthritis related (as other comments have mentioned). There might be hand exercises that could increase the muscles in the hands to try to compensate for the weakness caused by the arthritis in the joints, maybe.
Do you take any medications that might cause joint inflammation?
you’re describing situations where using eating utensils where you need to apply pressure hurts your hands, yeah?
Yes.
I appreciate good intentions, but people Dr Hausing isn’t helping me. I don’t have access to adequate healthcare.
True…but I’ve messed up my hands a few times before and found myself having issues using utensils, until my joints/bones recovered I found it a bit easier/less painful to make a larger handle from cardboard or wash cloths.
No medications required.
Does using crayons hurt for everyone else?
Physically no… emotionally yes… I just personally hate crayons
I can respect, i hate them emotionally as well
This, but more for pencils. Crayons at least have a bit of a sliding texture (though the waxy feel is meh). Pencils are mentally painful to use due to the friction.
may I recomend pens. I too have issues with how pencils feel, (though my hatred for them is much less than my hatred for crayons or blue pen ink) I still remember the day when a single class said I could use pens instead of pencils, and from that day on I carried a pen with me and would do everything in pen
Personally I already use pens whenever possible :D
I’ve long suspected if anything that my massive dislike of pencils stemmed, perhaps, from being “spoiled” by ballpoint pens…
well now I have to ask, do you have a type of pen you prefer above all others, or is it any ballpoint pen
Admittedly it’s just any ballpoint pen. I have some nicer (Zebra and Muji) ones as well that are still cheap and much better, but I’m fine with and grew up using bics and the sort.
What about you?
I will use almost any (except blue ink), but I have slowly been trying to find my “go to” pen right now is a Pilot Precise V5… but I do not know how long that will last
This can be a thing with some pencils. The trick is decent quality and softer rather than harder lead. But I can’t use cheap pencils, even then if they’re scratchy. The feeling goes through me.
Another question: do your nails look like they’re split into various layers when you freshly cut them?
Sounds like a nutrient deficiency.
Too bad my insurance doesn’t cover any tests regarding nutrients.
They’re easy to restore just have some jello every now and then. While i’m here: Iodine is another thing that most people are deficient in. The supplements are called “kelp” you can take one every 3 or so days to bring yourself to normal levels. You can also take a list of everything you eat read the labels and find out what you might be lacking in. Avoid multivitamins, they suck.
Do you have skin issues like psoriasis?
I have skin issues, but nothing diagnosed.
I wouldn’t be surprised if you have psoriatic arthritis. But you should probably consult a physician.
Thanks, I’ll bear that in mind for when if I ever have access to remotely competent doctors. Thank you.
Any time. You might want to consider getting adaptive utensil holders. Look at some online and see how they’re held. Might be helpful.
Those don’t look like they’d help with the pain at all though.
I’m not trying to sound flippant here or anything, but if holding cutlery or similar objects like scissors causes you pain, then what’s the harm in trying to manipulate those objects in a different way? The worst that can happen is it doesn’t solve the problem.
Sometimes! Nail files are your friends
Do people hold in(a bit)/activate their abs all the time?
I’ve observed that I can hold it in a bit and my belly appears quite a lot smaller(almost negligent) as opposed to when I relax it, like how you do for breathing in deeply.I used to do it my entire life with my belly abs until I had a surgery on my belly and I no longer can do it as much since. I am supposed to have another surgery there so I won’t try to retrain, but it’s been years since the intial surgery.
I also used to activate my anus for some time after I’ve read that if you don’t exercise it, you will shit yourself when you get old. xd Didn’t last. ^ ^’
Aah. Thank you.
All the best with the surgeryAsking out of curiosity: How does one train their anus?
“Pinch” and release repeatedly. If you’re a guy, it’s similar to holding your pee or “making it bounce”? Idk
Can’t speak of other but I do, yes. I began doing it almost subconsciously when I started losing weight / exercising.
Like all the time? No thats weird, tho engaging your core during weightlifting is a good excercise.
It’s supposed to be good for you spine if you do it right. I think the idea is that if it breath into your stomach with your abs slightly tensed, you create pressure, which “takes the weight off” your vertebrae, which helps to keep those joints healthy. It’s explained in Becoming a Supple Leopard and iirc in Starting Strength. But the other trick with posture is to keep moving and keeping shifting; doing hold stress positions all the time – everything needs to rest.
Yes but not on purpose. I do it with my back as well to the point I’m constantly flexed and need to actively relax my muscles. I’m getting physical therapy for it actually.
If you want to stand up straight and sit upright then yeah you should be engaging your abs a bit. It’s not the same as sucking in your gut but it does make your belly a little smaller like you said.
No, that’s not normal. Do your hands hurt when handling other tools like your smartphone, keyboard, scissors, etc?
Smartphone, keyboard no. Scissors yes to a point where I need to take breaks cutting my nails. I think it’s metal that’s the issue, because I also cannot wear metal jewelery. I’ll look into finding non-metal cutlery once I find housing. Maybe non metal scissors too. Thank you. :)
Do you have issues grasping objects, particularly small ones? Buttoning pants/shirts, picking up change, turning doorknobs. Things like that?
Nope.
What specifically hurts: skin or muscles or something else?
How would you describe the pain: burning, itching, aching, etc?
How long does the pain last?
Deep tissue so I assume muscle. Very strong aching pain. It lasts as long as I use the cuttlery and then briefly lingers.
That sounds an awful lot like some form of arthritis. It’s not just an ailment for the elderly. Children can develop it too.
I have always had it (the pain). I have hypermobility though.
Is it all metal or, what I going to assume is stainless Steel?
Is stainless steel not metal.
I have had the issue with any cutlery I ever used in my life.
Before you conclude its the metal and not something else, and I say this not doubting your assumption, but out of an abundance of caution, if you have gloves try using your cutlery with the gloves, if it is contact with the steel, the gloves should prevent it and their should not be any pain.
Also have, and this might be a US exess thing, used the pastic disposable cutlary
Does the metal sting or something? Or is it more like muscle cramping from handling something small?
Wrt feeling pain, where is the pain? Is it in your hand holding the utensil, or in your head, or all over? I don’t think it is extremely commonplace to feel pain when putting a spoon into something soft, but various sensory experiences, even pretty benign ones can be overwhelming. You might have a sensual aversion to it, or there might be a trauma that crops up related somehow to the experience. If you experience neurons diversity, we can have any number of acute reactions to sensory inputs. I definitely feel a physical sensation like pain brought about by acute anxiety, and I’ve heard others do as well.
Okay, I think in 2022, I burnt my throat with vinegar because I forgot to dilute it… I was trying to gargle it to get rid of sore throat
1 year later, and I find myself quite on a hair-trigger to acid reflux when I eat acidic and salty foods…
Does anyone have a solution?
No it is not, my mouth does NOT hurt when I eat something off a fork.
I am not speaking of mouth, I am speaking of hands.
Oh yea no my hands dont hurt either, do your hands also hurt when you pick up like a pencil.
i have never heard of someone feeling pain as a result of handling cutlery
Me neither
Thank you. I wish I knew like a quarter of a century earlier. xd
Is it normal to crack your finger ligaments and back and neck often? I do it several times a day, hell sometimes a few times an hour just because I like hearing the little cracks. Does anyone else do that? It’s like a nervous tick but I do it even when not nervous. It doesn’t make me feel bad or anything, like my fingers are totally fine, but is it uncommon?
I do it too. It feels good, though I don’t know if this is because I’m usually stretching when I do it. I’m always worried that someday I’ll accidentally twist too far and permanently injure myself, but to be honest I’ve never actually hurt myself doing it so it’s probably okay.
I hundred percent get what you mean about overstretching and bending something but I typically (i hope) use the same amount of low force just enough for the crack sound, then I stop. I really really hope that doesn’t go wrong one day, that would really suck
I’ve been doing it my entire life, starting in my teens up until now in my near middle age.
The only disadvantage I’ve ever heard is plausible, is maybe some weakening of the joints, but that’s about it. It doesn’t seem to cause arthritis or any other issues, At least that there is evidence for. I think I heard that about 10 years ago. So hopefully that information is not out of date.
I used to hate when my oldest brother cracked my knuckles to fuck w me, now I wait all day for the few knuckle cracks I can get, finger ones are easy
I do this all the time. I still remeber the joy when I learned there are two place where you can crack your finger. Double the amount of cracks per hour babyyyy 😎
Exactly lol, I crack both ways and try to go kinda quick just to hear the symphony of cracks
I used to do it more, but I frequently crack my back and fingers. Mostly out of habit honestly.
You might have a metal allergy
Have you tried using wooden or plastic chopsticks?
Are mutated earworms normal? Like you hear a song in your head but it significantly differs from the real song. I’m not talking about misheard lyrics – it’s like at one point I forgot all of the song but a fragment and my brain inartfully filled in the missing parts and then hit save on the resulting mess, which became part of the permanent collection and can’t be excised by hearing the original song.
I often think of a song far too frequently and end up distorting it sort of for fun. For example, I’ll reword boyz n the hood.
My question is: does anyone else almost perpetually have a random song stuck in their head, like a radio but often repeating lyrics.
For some reason my memory is convinced that sk8terboi goes “she was a boy, he was a girl, can i make it anymore obvious”
