I’m saying this with respect, because I do have respect for you, despite disagreements. When I first joined kbin.social, I was much the same, if not worse. Life events were happening around that time that forced me to face myself. I stopped drinking entirely for months, now have an occasional beer. I stopped smokinng but after a month picked up vaping. I stopped smoking weed and still don’t. I didn’t have access to therapy, I did have access to the Internet. I got serious about being able to self-regulate. I started digging. I discovered shadow work. I learned what bugs me the most in other people exists in me, past/present/how I could see myself doing/saying/thinking if it seemed a type of way. In short I looked in the mirror. Not that anyone forced me, led by emotions, we’re manipulable. Yes, you and me. If something triggers or stings, guess who I need to look at and here’s a hint: not who triggered me.
That means there’s a wound that needs attention, with love and forgiveness. That means I confront anger/guilt/pain/shame with love and forgiveness. I learn to ask what triggered me and why? What wound was touched or festers that needs healing? And I do the work. Not always when I want, when I am able, considering time, setting, personal ability at the moment I have time. I did it and I do it.
Life is still living, ups and downs. The difference is, I’ve got me. I stopped abandoning myself to run from myself. Because at the end of the day, I don’t have to lay myself down or live with you or .ml or anyone else. I do live with and lay me down with me. When I’m focusing on your behavior, rather than observing it, guess who I’m not focusing on and cheating out of the care I deserve…my inner child deserves a loving, caring, friend firm, healthy parent. Loving myself enough to say yes is easy. Loving myself enough to say no is hard. I’m worth it. And I think you are, too
That’s great. I won’t wish you luck, just remind you you have the ability and tools to handle this. Skills, as you know, will come in due time. The more you practice, the faster they come, the more like reflex it becomes. It’s so much better than you can imagine, right now. You’ve got this.
I’m saying this with respect, because I do have respect for you, despite disagreements. When I first joined kbin.social, I was much the same, if not worse. Life events were happening around that time that forced me to face myself. I stopped drinking entirely for months, now have an occasional beer. I stopped smokinng but after a month picked up vaping. I stopped smoking weed and still don’t. I didn’t have access to therapy, I did have access to the Internet. I got serious about being able to self-regulate. I started digging. I discovered shadow work. I learned what bugs me the most in other people exists in me, past/present/how I could see myself doing/saying/thinking if it seemed a type of way. In short I looked in the mirror. Not that anyone forced me, led by emotions, we’re manipulable. Yes, you and me. If something triggers or stings, guess who I need to look at and here’s a hint: not who triggered me.
That means there’s a wound that needs attention, with love and forgiveness. That means I confront anger/guilt/pain/shame with love and forgiveness. I learn to ask what triggered me and why? What wound was touched or festers that needs healing? And I do the work. Not always when I want, when I am able, considering time, setting, personal ability at the moment I have time. I did it and I do it.
Life is still living, ups and downs. The difference is, I’ve got me. I stopped abandoning myself to run from myself. Because at the end of the day, I don’t have to lay myself down or live with you or .ml or anyone else. I do live with and lay me down with me. When I’m focusing on your behavior, rather than observing it, guess who I’m not focusing on and cheating out of the care I deserve…my inner child deserves a loving, caring,
friendfirm, healthy parent. Loving myself enough to say yes is easy. Loving myself enough to say no is hard. I’m worth it. And I think you are, tooYeah, probably so. Things are getting better for me, too, it’s a good thing I think.
That’s great. I won’t wish you luck, just remind you you have the ability and tools to handle this. Skills, as you know, will come in due time. The more you practice, the faster they come, the more like reflex it becomes. It’s so much better than you can imagine, right now. You’ve got this.