I think the problem is that Autism isn’t clearly defined. There are people who have Autism struggles but they don’t present in the traditional way. For instance, some of my family are very successful socially with lots of connections. The thing I realized later was that people can be a special interest. Lots of surface level connections with little in depth understanding. You can be Autistic and very high masking.

I also think there is a ton of overlap between ADHD, Autism and other related conditions. I’m honestly not even sure that ADHD and Autism are to separate things.