“I’m an incredibly cruel and shallow asshole that demands that everyone conforms to my beauty standards and my love for a woman will only ever be skin deep and transactional. Why can’t I keep a gf?”

Gad damn, even the dudes on that site that have girlfriends are miserable and hate their perfect waifu the moment they change slightly physically (or don’t change enough if the dude suddenly decided he likes a different aesthetic). They’ll complain that women only date muscular men, then complain when women don’t date muscular men. They’ll complain about “ugly” women but at the same time complain that they themselves aren’t attractive enough to get girls. They’re incredibly shallow while complaining that every woman they date is shallow. The lengths they go to avoid self-reflection must be wild.

The misunderstanding of The Substance in particular made me laugh. The film is critiquing the exact shallow obsessions these dorks chase, and instead of taking a step back and asking themselves “Are we the baddies?” They just whine about how it’s not a film about how hard it is for men to go through rejection. As if their isn’t already a million things like that in media, and as if it’s only men that go though embarrassing dating troubles.

Anyway here’s a link to the site if you hate yourself: https://inshapetoday.com/

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    The thumb in the 3rd screenshot, Dr Mike Israetel, has a PHD in Sports Physiology but also he believes in race science.

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    They couldn’t have picked a worse example than Emilia Clarke, besides the first 3 images where she looks like a child she looks suprisingly the same.

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    That’s a really bad example, too. Dany goes from being a teenager that’s like 14 to being an adult in her 20s over the course of the series. Of course she’s going to gain weight…she’s literally supposed to be taller and done with puberty by season 8.

    But yes. The fitness bros are not okay. Total hypocrites with zero understanding of actual human biology.

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      She also goes from slave to royalty, wherein her social value rests on more than her body by the end of the series.

      * With the necessary caveat that this is in the context of a highly patriarchal and misogynistic feudal society, so her autonomy still has limits far lower than that of a man in the same position

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    I feel like every single individual post on that site would give a psychologist enough work to write a dissertation. What a fucked up group of people. I guess when you think “working out and building muscle will magically fix all my problems” and it doesn’t, it leaves you sad empty, angry guy. This is probably why fascists work out so much, it isn’t to be tough, it’s to be hateful. The only thing I’m surprised about on this site is that there aren’t more fascist dogwhistles.

    Also what is this meal? (CW Meat):

    Maybe this is why they are so angry? Spices and herbs add like practically 0 calories to a meal guys. You can eat stuff other than plain white rice and boiled chicken and still lose weight/put on muscle. I’d be pissed off too if I had to eat stuff like that all the time. And I’m the sort of guy who will just eat a can of chickpeas straight and cold, like they’re baked beans.

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      You could solve this with such simple things too, a splash of soy sauce or some salt and pepper isn’t gonna elevate this to fine dining but at least you won’t be miserable eating this. Also, no veggies? He’s probably also miserable because he takes 4 hours to pass a turd.

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          “White People Food” is the reaction from Chinese people discovering what Americans were making for themselves and eating, and started to go viral 2 years ago. You basically take a few raw or basic ingredients, steam or boil them, and put them next to each other. Voilà, the Lunch of Sadness.

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              You probably did indeed process two of the 100 most recognizable characters. I had to look up the term myself to post it, because I didn’t have the third one committed to memory either.

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    How does a producer tell an actress to lose weight without offending her

    I might be wrong, but I feel like most people get a bit bigger as they get older. (Not that that actress is overweight at all). I gotta be 15 kilos more than I was at 18 years old.

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        True.

        I was dealing with this a year+ ago, my partner gained a few kilos and was upset about it. I Googled how to support her and make her feel better, and everything on Reddit and Quora was “I don’t love my wife now, how do I give her an eating disorder”.

        God I’m hella glad I don’t date men.

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          I Googled how to support her and make her feel better

          At the risk of sounding patronizing; I’m glad there are people out there that support each other instead of tearing each other down. We need more of that in this world.

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            I want to say, when you have someone who’s always been in your corner and always will, not nitpicking them over stupid shit and saying a few things to lift them up is the most uber selfish thing possible. I say this as a guy who’s not always been the most perfect boyfriend in past relationships, being a dickhead comes back to bite you. Maybe some younger guy here will see it.

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    Where did you even find this site? I really don’t ever find anything negative when I search for fitness stuff, though I usually stick to YouTube tutorials and the like

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      I was literally just googling if beans are enough protein to build healthy muscle with and this is what the algorithm gods dumped me with about three results down.

      The internet hates me.

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        You’re looking at too much slop, Google is now personalizing your searches with it

        Answer if you didn't find it

        Beans are missing a few key proteins and amino acids, augment with protein powder with BCAAs

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            I’d be careful with that statement without a citation. Beans and rice is famously a complete AA profile, but vegans also famously need B12 supplemented unless you are deliberately eating specific foods.

            The Vitamin B12 contents of soybeans are low or undetectable. However, a fermented soybean-based food called tempe contains a considerable amount of Vitamin B12 (0.7–8.0 μg/100 g) [40]. Bacterial contamination during tempe production may contribute to the increased Vitamin B12 content of tempe [41]. Other fermented soybean products contain minute amounts of Vitamin B12 [42,43].

            https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4042564/

            @[email protected]

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              Unsolicited anti-vegan concern trolling. This isn’t a question about B-12, which is an easy supplement to do. Where do you think your pigs and chickens get their B-12? Yes, the same supplements.

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                I apologize. I didn’t mean to be anti-vegan. I was trying to be helpful and offer an answer to the question that was being posed.

                rat-salute-2

                Edit: Oh fuck I see what I did. B12 is related but uninvovled with the amino acid profile. I’m trolling.

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                  It’s cool. I really appreciate the response. Sorry if I was a bit harsh, vegans get the “oh you can’t be vegan because X” thing several times a week, and the previous comment about not being able to do just beans upped my adrenaline a bit.

                  Anyhow, thanks for making this best community on the internet. Really.

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            It’s a little more complex than that. Even as a complete protein, soy may not have enough of certain amino acids for muscle building. It’s better to have too much than not enough.

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    I saw a YouTube video of a guy who “worked out like David Goggins for 100 days.” It starts out so funny and the guy has this sense of humor. But the meta commentary of the video delves into this psychological horror of a guy who needs to be tough because nobody understands him. All his friends & family and his partner are pleading for him to rest so he gets sick if hearing it. It was sad for me because it started as a reaction to his medical diagnosis, the exercise became this vector for expressing deep-seated and horrible identity issues. I had a window into the life of this guy who seemed happy, successful, and pleasant enough. I’m slow on the pick up because I don’t catch the tonal shift as necessary - “oh he gets +1 toughness each day haha”.

    I agree with his friends and family despite doing avid exercise for the majority of my life. He ends up losing a ridiculous amount of weight in a crazy short time. Though he eclipses my capacity, you could savor the shock on my face if he sustains it. I would be thrilled for him if he finds a happy medium, but he mentions during his endgame how talking to someone while biking was the first time he enjoyed exercise. I don’t do this to torture myself just like I don’t do BJJ to torture others (unless they’re my friend). Instead of “how can I squeeze every last bit from this 100 days?” I think the better question to ask is “how do I do this for a decade?” because there’s no question that you could sustain a Hurculean-Olympian style burst of perfection for a couple days. He was really impressive, but still subject to the same gravity.

    I feel like the Vinland Saga, Berserk, Vagabond trio would do him some good. I reflect on how a white belt was shocked that they completed some takedown on me as I practiced my new judo (neutered so I don’t launch a newbie). I like the art and being outsmarted by a skilled artist is a thing of beauty. It was this moment of realizing that I don’t carry many thoughts of defending my toughness on me. Some people have that bloodlust in them, but plenty (and I won’t sniff my own farts with a ratio) of people find their peace in exercise instead. Khamzat Chimaev, a tenacious and… outspoken wrestler in the UFC, famously chilled out after long COVID fucked him up and he became a father. He gets a bunch of Vinland Saga/hopecore edits on tiktok.

    I just felt so bad because this guy should have been happy. Getting cramped legs from running so you start swimming should be slice of life work. It felt like the beginning of Princess Mononoke where the fucked up boar is rampaging. Like I think the guy could live a more fulfilling and happy life if his interest was Nintendo instead of David Goggins because at least he wouldn’t alienate the people who liked him before his fitness bit idea.

    Edit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWU5O7cK7aI

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      It just seems like young people are almost always motivated by weird body image issues. It’s a very different mentality and mindspace when your motivation is “I want to live long enough to see my grandchildren” or “I don’t want to spend my 70s in a wheelchair or bedridden” instead of “I want to look hot.”

      The dude obsesses over his weight even though he’s doing plenty of unhealthy things like not sleeping enough. And he’s presumably not focusing on stretching even though one of the first things you notice about old people is how their range of motion is so limited compared with young people.

    • I know the exact video you reference and yeah, that was clearly not a healthy way of doing exercise. I felt bad for his friends, and while I personally work out a lot (probably also plenty of unhealthy body image, but at the same time I am finally starting to like what I see in the mirror, and I do feel very good thanks to that), I could not imagine doing what he did without burning out to a complete husk

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    The sketched female body in an orange top on the left is the sexier one.

    People have always existed in all shapes and sizes (regardless of gender), and as long as you can move around fine, you can fit someone in whatever position you want.

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    If you want fitness advice without the bullshit body dystopian brainworms, watch fitness videos that cater towards older people like seniors or made by physical therapists. The contrast is so stark. They are also extremely helpful if you don’t exercise because you functionally aren’t as different from a senior person or a physically active person recovering from injury as you may think.