• weariedfae@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    No shade intended but by any chance are you Gen Z or younger?

    If so, there’s some ingrained toxic social more context you might not understand because you grew up in a better society than we did.

    But if you’re genuinely asking…

    Anything that acknowledges women exist? Gay Anything that recognizes men in relation to others instead of as the default? Believe it or not, gay Anything that involves sharing? Gay Pink? Gay Blue? Also gay Pink and blue? Liberace Diagonal lines? Gay The male/female Mars/Venus signs? Gay The Venus sign on a blue background? Lesbian Mars sign on a pink background? Flaming gay Two men standing near each other: friends of Dorothy Two men holding a flag together: Gay The way the one guy is pinching the corner: Super fucking gay Wearing a teal shirt: Gay Wearing a yellow tie: Gay

    I could keep going but I think you might get the picture.

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      8 months ago

      I still have relatives that say “ugh that’s gay” to mean “I don’t like that”.

      I don’t speak to these relatives anymore.

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          8 months ago

          I used to say it, cause it was my environment in a very lgbtphobic area around lgbtphobic people to fit in, stopped saying it cause I don’t want to spread hate, and started using it again, cause it is my environment in a very gay friend group and gay girlfriend cause it is feels funny and good to reclaim it.

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              8 months ago

              Exactly! We also like to poke fun at it ever being a “bad” thing. One of our running gags with each other, my partner and I, is to respond to something/event by saying “I think I might be gay” and the other one of us will feign horror.

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      8 months ago

      Nope. 67 and doing my best since high school to be inclusive in my thinking.

      I guess I just don’t get how anyone other than a toxic fuck or at least a thoughtless stereotyper could say that most of what you point out of indicates gayness.

      Someone else went through a “symbolic analysis” that helps me see some of it.

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        8 months ago

        a toxic fuck or at least a thoughtless stereotyper

        That’s like everyone back when I was in school, me included.

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          8 months ago

          Yeah, point taken. The toxic fuckery I saw and experienced and probably propogated in school is likely why I’ve put in effort to be better.