I hate to say it, but I think to most people I probably look like a chud. Anyone who has known me for more than 4 seconds knows I’m not, but I’m afraid I still visibly give off that vibe. I’m a man, or think I’m probably nonbinary tbh, but I still present and appear fully masculine, close to 40, full beard and mostly just wear plain dark t-shirts with no logo and dark jeans. I do have shoulder-length long hair, but so have plenty of chuds I’ve been acquainted with. I don’t have any sense of style and have never tried to learn or care about fashion, but no disrespect to those who do.
I probably shouldn’t care, but I hate knowing that when I’m around people they probably think I’m a reddit gamer or worse. Should I try to change my appearance or should I just learn not to give shit? Does anyone else here worry about that?
I’m also going to be getting glasses in the next few days and have to decide on a frame. What should I get to try to minimize chud appearance? I have kind of a squarish face but maybe a bit rounder now as I get older. Do certain kinds of glasses scream redditor or chud? Any advice on what I should go for is welcome.
Edit- Thank you for the advice to everyone who commented I really appreciate it. I am afraid I might have given the wrong impression on some of it so to clarify, I’ll just quote one of my responses
I do want to look unassuming. I’m pretty bad with social anxiety and most of the time I just want to go unnoticed. But I worry even that in going unnoticed I’ll give off the wrong impression. Chud is an extreme I probably shouldn’t have used because I don’t think anyone would ever look at me and think gun totin’ confederate flag waving chud or wannabe cop or some shit.
The worry is looking more like the aloof redditor, new athiest or even altright leaning brand of chud, or maybe I’m using the word chud wrong. As far as the nonbinary thing, that’s a lot to get into, but just as far as dress style, I don’t really want to look masculine OR feminine. I used to wear more feminine coded things when I was younger, but these days I feel like the plainer the better. I do have some leftist t-shirts, but I save those for certain occasions or when I’m going to be around certain people, or even trying to do leftist signaling without libs knowing with my All Cats are Beautiful shirt. Most of the time all I wear is a plain dark color with NO messaging at all not even a visible logo. I guess it’s less that I want to indicate my politics and more that I don’t want to announce the wrong politics when I’m just going about my day.
To be totally honest, I posted mostly because of the glasses I’ll be getting and I don’t want frames that make me look like Vaush.
I mean having a beard doesn’t automatically make you a chud, and I wouldn’t clock you as one based on how you describe yourself, so I personally wouldn’t worry about it. BUT, if it bothers you it bothers you and if you want to change up how you look then so be it. Or, is this about looking like a chud, or just not feeling as comfy dressing unassuming and masculine? You bring up possibly being nonbinary, so just a thought.
Usually things that flag people as chuds to me are: T-Shirts with stupid corny jokes on them about guns, beer, women, “don’t tread on me”, “come and take it” type shit, white power symbols… Also shirts/hats/bumper stickers etc. with the American flag on it unless it’s like, super small or an elderly person. Also glasses that look like these lol. Perhaps bootcut jeans too, that’s a stretch and idk why but it is sus to me
If you want to “look more leftist” I guess it would just be t-shirt signaling, really, or backpack patches, stickers on your water bottle if you always have one on you, or something. Leftist/alternative band t-shirts, if there are any local leftist orgs/mutual aid groups or like nonprofits that do good work in your community that sell swag, those can be good indicators. Or you can get spicier, SRA shirt, “kill your local nazi shirt”, something like that.
I do want to look unassuming. I’m pretty bad with social anxiety and most of the time I just want to go unnoticed. But I worry even that in going unnoticed I’ll give off the wrong impression. Chud is an extreme I probably shouldn’t have used because I don’t think anyone would ever look at me and think gun totin’ confederate flag waving chud or wannabe cop or some shit. Fortunately I have not a single one of the things you listed as your flags of chuds, even the bootcut jeans.
The worry is looking more like the aloof redditor, new athiest or even altright leaning brand of chud, or maybe I’m using the word chud wrong. As far as the nonbinary thing, that’s a lot to get into, but just as far as dress style, I don’t really want to look masculine OR feminine. I used to wear more feminine coded things when I was younger, but these days I feel like the plainer the better. I do have some leftist t-shirts, but I save those for certain occasions or when I’m going to be around certain people, or even trying to do leftist signaling without libs knowing with my All Cats are Beautiful shirt. Most of the time all I wear is a plain dark color with NO messaging at all not even a visible logo. I guess it’s less that I want to indicate my politics and more that I don’t want to announce the wrong politics when I’m just going about my day.
To be totally honest, I posted mostly because of the glasses I’ll be getting and I don’t want frames that make me look like Vaush.
What you suggested is all great advice for looking leftist though and because you suggested it, I’ll see if there’s a local org selling lefty merch as a means of support.
Honestly, lumberjack wear and canadian tuxedos are a winning duo for you. It’s always in fashion, and it’s practical. Maybe some workwear clothes to even out the closed. Flannel can go from thin to thick.