I hate to say it, but I think to most people I probably look like a chud. Anyone who has known me for more than 4 seconds knows I’m not, but I’m afraid I still visibly give off that vibe. I’m a man, or think I’m probably nonbinary tbh, but I still present and appear fully masculine, close to 40, full beard and mostly just wear plain dark t-shirts with no logo and dark jeans. I do have shoulder-length long hair, but so have plenty of chuds I’ve been acquainted with. I don’t have any sense of style and have never tried to learn or care about fashion, but no disrespect to those who do.
I probably shouldn’t care, but I hate knowing that when I’m around people they probably think I’m a reddit gamer or worse. Should I try to change my appearance or should I just learn not to give shit? Does anyone else here worry about that?
I’m also going to be getting glasses in the next few days and have to decide on a frame. What should I get to try to minimize chud appearance? I have kind of a squarish face but maybe a bit rounder now as I get older. Do certain kinds of glasses scream redditor or chud? Any advice on what I should go for is welcome.
Edit- Thank you for the advice to everyone who commented I really appreciate it. I am afraid I might have given the wrong impression on some of it so to clarify, I’ll just quote one of my responses
I do want to look unassuming. I’m pretty bad with social anxiety and most of the time I just want to go unnoticed. But I worry even that in going unnoticed I’ll give off the wrong impression. Chud is an extreme I probably shouldn’t have used because I don’t think anyone would ever look at me and think gun totin’ confederate flag waving chud or wannabe cop or some shit.
The worry is looking more like the aloof redditor, new athiest or even altright leaning brand of chud, or maybe I’m using the word chud wrong. As far as the nonbinary thing, that’s a lot to get into, but just as far as dress style, I don’t really want to look masculine OR feminine. I used to wear more feminine coded things when I was younger, but these days I feel like the plainer the better. I do have some leftist t-shirts, but I save those for certain occasions or when I’m going to be around certain people, or even trying to do leftist signaling without libs knowing with my All Cats are Beautiful shirt. Most of the time all I wear is a plain dark color with NO messaging at all not even a visible logo. I guess it’s less that I want to indicate my politics and more that I don’t want to announce the wrong politics when I’m just going about my day.
To be totally honest, I posted mostly because of the glasses I’ll be getting and I don’t want frames that make me look like Vaush.
I feel like the right pair of glasses can “soften” your look enough to look less chuddy. I personally like ones with keyhole bridges, rounder shapes, and tortoise shell style plastic, but your personal taste can vary. I’d say just be willing to be a little more adventurous with your frames - maybe even pick a fun color or odd shape if that appeals to you!
I tend to think there’s a certain type of rectangular rimless glasses that read stemlord redditor, and the oakley wraparound style reads very chud to me.
Thanks, that’s the kind of advice I was hoping for about the frames. Yeah I should just pick something that seems a little off kilter, I just don’t know what that is even.
That’s what I mean. I have an old pair of glasses someone else picked out for me exactly like that and that is exactly the kind of vibe I want to avoid. A while back on one of the few good leftist subs someone posted a pic of themselves and people were saying to lose the redditor glasses and that the poster looked like (cw) Vaush. But I all was thinking when I saw the pic was “shit, he looks like me!”
Since then I was thinking I should just go with Barce Belden style glasses next time.