I hate to say it, but I think to most people I probably look like a chud. Anyone who has known me for more than 4 seconds knows I’m not, but I’m afraid I still visibly give off that vibe. I’m a man, or think I’m probably nonbinary tbh, but I still present and appear fully masculine, close to 40, full beard and mostly just wear plain dark t-shirts with no logo and dark jeans. I do have shoulder-length long hair, but so have plenty of chuds I’ve been acquainted with. I don’t have any sense of style and have never tried to learn or care about fashion, but no disrespect to those who do.
I probably shouldn’t care, but I hate knowing that when I’m around people they probably think I’m a reddit gamer or worse. Should I try to change my appearance or should I just learn not to give shit? Does anyone else here worry about that?
I’m also going to be getting glasses in the next few days and have to decide on a frame. What should I get to try to minimize chud appearance? I have kind of a squarish face but maybe a bit rounder now as I get older. Do certain kinds of glasses scream redditor or chud? Any advice on what I should go for is welcome.
I think just the barest little counter-messaging could still be helpful if that’s your concern. You don’t need to wear a hat with “marg bar amerikkka” printed on four sides, but a little rainbow wristband or something will get a message across to most people without drawing a huge amount of attention unless you’re in a really chuddy place.
Personally I think most people probably profile me as like a channer or a drug dealer, but well, I think that most people aren’t going to make very grave assumptions about you and if you aren’t a chud, it’ll probably become obvious if you just behave in a manner that shows even an interest in being empathetic to them. You come across as gentle enough – partly for asking this question at all – so I think most people aren’t going to stubbornly hold on to an image of you as a rightist, and those that do (because of trauma or something, I’d expect) aren’t going to be persuaded by you wearing an earring.