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When possible I tell people that we can talk first for a bit and introduce ourselves later. My mind links names to persons, not faces.
I have to start doing that!
“I want to decide if I like what you have to say before I want to know who you are”. Good strategy. If he starts quoting Andrew Tate then I can say “no thanks” and bounce.
For some reason I have to say it if I want to remember it so if I’m being the better version of myself I’ll try to fit it in as soon as I can.
Yeah I do this too and I fucking hate it.
Similar to quietly reading outloud a 2FA code, or phone number, or set of navigation instructions, as we had to do back before smart phones existed…
Just repeat their name back at them in some friendly phrase/compliment after they introduce themselves.
The more parts of your brain and body you engage in part of the learning/memory/recall process, the more likely it is to actually stick in your memory.
That is part of why you probably remember silly dances with lyrics from Sunday School or Sesame Street or Barney or w/e better than you remember many giant topics you only read about in a textbook in school.
That and minimizing time between being presented information and then recalling it. Doing that right off the bat sets up that recall neural pathway right away.
YMMV, but I am autistic, and this has helped me for decades… I had this problem as a kid… and I just actually studied theories of how brains learn and recall things, and there are actually empirically studied and verified methods of teaching/learning that just are more likely to work than others.
Sure, but I know that mitochondria are the powerhouses of the cell.
Catch phrases and acronyms help a lot as well!
… though these are best relegated to fundamental building blocks of knowledge sets, when you use them to summarize a very complex concept, they almost always result in oversimplification and then misunderstanding.
Do you know your mathematical order of operations, and definitions of sin, cosine and tangent?
I have literally forgotten everything past algebra. And probably a lot of the higher algebra stuff too.
PEMDAS
SohCahToa
Order of operations and basic trigonometry are … generally taught prior to algebra, maybe basic trig and pre-algebra/algebra at the same time, or back to back.
So, you actually don’t even remember the fundamental precursors to algebra, nor algebra, nor anything after it… if you don’t know the order of operations.
I can do a bit better, but I can’t remember the quadratic formula off the top of my head anymore… I blame this on there not being an acronym for it, lol.
Ummmm, can you be more specific with the precursors and stuff?
Sure, I can tutor you for $40 / hr.
Your first conversation with someone is the time that it is least embarrassing to ask their name again - I always make a point to go over names multiple times in the first conversation and just re ask names if I’ve forgotten any.
This is me always. Would it be okay to ask them to repeat their name? Definitely. Will I? Nope. Too much social anxiety on that one.
Though I am trying more and more to do just that when I am in this situation. Also try to blame it on something else “hey I’m sorry but the music was so loud I couldn’t hear. What did you say your name was again??”
i dont know why people need names its never important to me and i always forget its a thing lol
Everyone becomes “Hey you”.
Hey, partner!
Buddyyyyy!
Hey mate works universally in Australia. But if you’re actually friends you have to use oi cunt
Surprisingly, oi cunt does not work as well in the US as you might think.
Or I know it but worry I’ve got it wrong so don’t commit to saying it anyway.
0.1 seconds after they tell me
A timeframe in which they might have not even finish saying their name.
