ok so i have a friend in the us that is willing to buy me whatever hormones i may need, but i cant pick up mail packages due to me being a minor(16), therefore i need an adult willing to help me, by picking up the package from the mail(and paying whatever fees it has sorry) and then ship it to me in a way that i can pick it up(easybox(which costs 15lei sorry)) i am being very serious so if you are in romania(or will be by the end of may) or have friends in romania that you think may be interested uhhh pls help email: [email protected] oh im a trans girl btw i hope im not being stupid
Not questioning your decisions, but it sounds like you’re doing this solo, and likely without parents knowing about it. If that’s the case, you might want to think ahead to what will happen if someone does find out.
If you’re not in a position where you can trust an adult enough to tell them you’re transitioning (for whatever reason that may be), you’re likely not going to have a safety net when you do transition. Please think over who might support you in your efforts to become the person you want to be. Especially in a country like Romania, where anything LGBTQ+ is under increasing stress from bigots.
So no, you’re not being stupid for asking for help online, but please make sure you know if you can trust anyone from your personal surroundings going forward.
yea my parents don’t know about it, my plan is to do hrt in secret and boymode until im 18 then leave the country
not really worried about them finding out, cuz like what could they do, if they take away my hrt supplies then ill just resume it once im 18
i have told several adults about my plans, including one irl(the school therapist) also told 2 classmates and 2 friends irl and some friends online
you’re right btw about romania being hostile to queer ppl, mostly the older folk
Most eastern European countries follow the same blueprint of the elderly being exremely conservative. The youngsters are usually damaged in a way where they are more tolerant, but have some weird homo-/transphobic tendencies. And then there’s people like you who are just trying to live their lives the way they feel they should. Never give up on that!
Now I don’t presume to know what kind of relationship you have with your parents. But judging from some of the stories I’ve seen on this community alone, taking away hormones is probably not even close to the most damaging thing your parents could do to you. So I might be blowing things way out of proportion here, but just in case: Be absolutely sure they’re not going to kick you out to the streets or otherwise put you in danger before you’re in a position where you being a minor no longer impacts your life.
Also don’t underestimate what the hormones will do to your body. Two whole years is a lot of time for changes to take effect, including things you might not be able to hide as easily. Two years is a long time to keep a secret from your immediate family, and there are probably going to be moments where simply “boymoding” is not going to cut it.
Then there’s the leaving the country part, which is likely not going to be a magic solution either. The good news is that you have two years to research everything you need to know in order to find some safety in your life. And I hate to say it, but financial security is going to be a big part of that, as it allows you more freedom to avoid places that are regretably not safe for trans folk. The harsh reality is that this becomes exponentially easier if you’re either talented or highly educated, since most of the safer countries will more readily hand out work visa to those more beneficial to the local economy and job market.
Don’t get the wrong idea, definitely not trying to talk you out of your plans! Just trying to make sure you’re several steps ahead and have planned for all sorts of situations. So the common denominator in all of this is “make sure you’re prepared and keep planning ahead”.
Other than that I wish you all the best, and good luck on your journey.