If I see one more of theses posts i’m going to throw my hands up in the air while shouting “that’s it!” and then re-enter the dating pool.
Lmao
A naturally kind and sweet demeanor, this is much more important than raw sexiness or looks.
equal exchange of energy.
Can you please elaborate more?
Sure!
My philosphy with dating comes down to the equal exchange thing; Im a feminimist, im a ML… So my expectations may be different from the society I live in.
How that manifests?
I have full trust in my partner, I will never tell them what to wear, how to look, who they can be with, when to come home; If I had serious doubts about any of this I wouldnt just tell them what to do, i’d let them know how it made me feel, and seperate if it comes down to a incompitablity.
I will outline boundries, i.e you do x I will do Y, but it is never presented as demands, just as expectations.
I expect the same in return, equal exchanges; all sex is fully consensual, I never pressure, shame or guilt anyone into having sex; I want them to feel the same way as me.
I view housework as labour, labour should be equally divided; I will cover if they are sick, but the expectation is we do the same amount of hours of housework roughly.
And on top of that, interest really; I want them to be as interested in them as they are me; that could be casual sex, that could be marriage; we need to feel the same way.
Massive dumper.
Someone who is constantly shitting?
Big ol ass.
Gotta praise the honesty here.
Slow to anger is key for me. No matter how much you like a person, it’s so hard to deal with someone who constantly blows up over small things.
I agree
Slow to anger an understanding your woes, hence why I am still dating my gf two years later.
What do you mean by “woes”? Do you mean someone who is forgiving and has patience for any mistake that you might accidentally do?
Not just that but willing to listen and turn to when I’m at my lowest
Someone who is easy to manipulate so that they are your property and don’t really have any agency or free will, they just aren’t aware of it.
Probably that’s what they meant, people are really troubled nowadays
Apparently someone willing to listen to your struggles equals manipulation.
I doubt that is what a ML would want
Wait where the fuck am I again? The magic of Lemmy I guess. Somehow I found myself between humpers of Lenin dead corpse without any warning or notice
The USSR had the lowest wage gap of any devoloped nation in history between men and women, in a time where in the UK women couldnt open bank accounts or order a drink at the pub by themselves. :)
I have no words but I am impressed. I have some kind of twisted respect for people tripping so hard possibly without any drugs
Am I wrong?
If I took a women from 1970s USSR and compared it to the UK…
- I can get an abortion
- I can divorce no fault
- Im paid the same as men
- My rent is 5% of my monthly wage
- I have full acsess to socialised healthcare
- I can have my own bank account
- I can order a drink without my husband being present
- Rape in marriage is a crime
