the people I know don’t listen and often hear the opposite of what I say. That’s why I have to repeat myself a lot.

  • cheee@lemmings.worldEnglish
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    5 months ago

    Is this a thing? I feel like I often have to repeat my very clear and simple words and even then people remember them differently than I do? I thought I was just insane

    • Franklin@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      5 months ago

      I mean it could be but it’s important that we don’t assume that. I mean I’m just dumb.

    • milicent_bystandr@lemm.eeEnglish
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      5 months ago

      Yeah, it is a thing, but beware also the times when you misremember both their words and your own. I, certainly, have been guilty…

      At the same time, it may help to remember that people are often listening to, and I presume ‘remembering’ a sort of semantic meaning of what you said, not the words. Add to that a little mishearing, some assumption, and different expectations between you and them, and that can shift the meaning a lot from what you meant, while to them it seems they just approximately remembered.