Sorry no one posted one for last week! Feel free to include anything from the week before you want to catch us up on :-)
Please let us know of any fun you had, of the naughty and un-naughty kind 🙏
Sorry no one posted one for last week! Feel free to include anything from the week before you want to catch us up on :-)
Please let us know of any fun you had, of the naughty and un-naughty kind 🙏
Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe we’re indeed variants from different timelines. Let me tell you more about my timeline.
We’ve been together since the university, 20+ years ago. I fell in love at first sight, l never felt something so strong for someone. We shared and still share lots of things: we’re gamers, nerds, far leftist, cat lovers, we never planned to have kids…
The first years were a firework. But with time, she went through a lot of different stuff which slowly ruined her libido. Nowadays, she has treatments for two medical conditions, each one of them is known to have a negative impact on sexuality (she can’t even enjoy fingering herself alone anymore).
We tried a lot of things, but eventually she just felt bad because she was depriving me of a sexual life and she put a lot of pressure on herself for that. So she suggested we should open our relationship for me. And for a long time, I didn’t want to have sex with anyone else, because I believed true love means monogamy.
But she was still very insecure because of our lack of sexual life, so I searched for a solution which would not endanger our couple. And so I discovered that gay saunas exist.
It’s a good solution for me. I have sex at will, so she doesn’t put anymore pressure on herself for that. I can explore an other side of my sexuality, and make some fantasies come true. There’s no risk that I fall in love with someone else.
We established simple rules: I don’t date people outside of the sauna. I tell her when I go there (so she knows my phone is off). I limit the risks of STD. No sex with someone we know. No shame, I can tell her what I did when I come back home. We can freely speak about this deal, and stop it if one of us start to feel unconformable about it.
The second time I went to a sauna, our whatsapp was litteraly like :
That’s so simple. I love her.
This conversation has popped back into my head. Over the last year a friend my wife met over the Internet and at conventions became a mutual cuddle buddy of ours and (with my wife) a romantic interest.
In hindsight I think your story helped nudge me towards it. Around October I began doing erotic roleplay with folks online. A lot of times I wanted to do more stuff with them, like JOI or just involve voice chat or anything but it was always outside of the limits.
After it was clear my wife was interested romantically in our mutual friend we brought back up the topic of poly and where our boundaries really are. To make a long story short, I just picked up my wife from the airport last night after her visiting this friend alone. I’m very happy for them. I’ve started doing more directly sexual things online with folks as opposed to just roleplay too. We’re both as happy as can be still.
Also, your story about what your partner said after the first time reminded me of the first time I went on an online “date” with someone. My wife was actually excited for me and gushed over the details with me and afterwards, later that day she very specifically came and sat with me on the couch and cuddled. It’s been a great experience overall. Just like with you, it’s helped my wife feel less anxious about needing to be able to satisfy me. It’s made the times she actually is in the mood better as well because she feels less stressed.
That’s nice to read. I’m glad you’ve found your own way of being in a relationship that works for you.
My partner and I continue to be in an open relationship, and we have no regrets or doubts that it was the right thing for us.