• hydroptic@sopuli.xyz
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    3 months ago

    Is this a common stereotype? I honestly have no clue. I’ve never run into it myself, but that doesn’t really say much about how common it is

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      3 months ago

      It is almost the exact conversation I (autistic) have had with all of my non-autistic partners.

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        3 months ago

        I’ve definitely had issues with rigid thinking and have had conversations (well, fights…) about it with my partners, but I think the reason that I’ve not run into this specific stereotype is that I’m completely OK with ambiguity which I guess is a bit surprising

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          3 months ago

          Isn’t that what he is pointing out in the video?

          To me, and what I got from the video, everything is basically on a continuum and ambiguous. Nothing is ever absolute, it’s just more or less likely.

          That doesn’t really play well though with the way most people are actually wired to benefit from “lying” (being positive, or reciting positive or affirming mantras) to themselves. I can’t speak for any autistic person other than myself, but I personally find the exercise of finding the silver lining or reciting positive affirmations to myself to actually be harmful and upsetting despite knowing that research indicates it is a helpful thing for more neurotypical people. Neither group/person is wrong, they just interpret things differently through no fault of their own.

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            3 months ago

            Oh yeah it was a part of what he was saying, although he seemed to be specifically also saying he’s not comfortable with ambiguity and likes it when people “follow rules”, which I took to be what some people refer to as “black and white thinking”