Like - what do I write in the card? What the hell do I get them? They come up so quickly as well.

  • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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    4 months ago

    Cards:

    • write what you like about them
    • add a relevant story you guys share within the last year that reflects that quality of theirs

    Gifts:

    • if they tell you they like something throughout the year, add it to a private note to look at during their bday
    • something they would love to have or use but wouldn’t spend their own money
    • bonus: relevant to their quality story

    Example

    Card: Happy birthday! I love how you’re always happy, like when we went to the beach and it started raining. Even though we were bummed out, you found a way to make it fun and we had a great time. I hope you receive the same happiness on your birthday that you gave me at the beach.

    Gift: The shirt they said they liked at the beach store but didn’t buy it for themselves.

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      • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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        4 months ago

        Thanks! Imagine the possibilities if we could decode the patterns of NT social interaction. Formulas, flowcharts, and nodes everywhere 🙆. Birthday coming up? “Activate Birthday Gifts and Card Protocol, go!” 😄

      • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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        4 months ago

        You’re welcome! I’d be happy to help you out with your particular situation. Hit me up on matrix if you’d like 🙂👍

        Also,

        edit: Warning, some people will become upset if they recognize that you follow this/a formula. I haven’t figured out a solution to this.

        • Flax@feddit.ukOPEnglish
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          4 months ago

          To be fair I use the same card design every year, so it probably wouldn’t be much worse