• froztbyte@awful.systems
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    2 months ago

    was one of the things I thought of too but fet (and also dating/meeting apps) has a longstanding problem of people catfishing. on balance, suspect this form is the more likely case

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      2 months ago

      As someone too cowardly to explore their kinks. I lack context. Now you have provided data to reinforce my reticence.

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        2 months ago

        it’s … not endemic, in the sense of “you’ll hit it every 3 profiles” (because fet community + platform seems to do a reasonably good job of handling it from reports etc), but you can see why it’s the type of thing that creeps and predators go for

        igwym re exploration. comfort, safety, trust, consent - all key. never do anything you don’t want to :)

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          It’s shocking that FetLife is managing to hold together as long as it has, as well as it has. Like everything it’s in decline, but it’s still a nice little slice of the golden age of the WWW. It may have a catphishing problem, but what it does not have is a Russian bot problem. It’s the only functional social network I’m on other than the Fediverse itself.