How do you get other people to speak with you? Usually I never know what to say in response.

Being a chatterbox hasn’t worked out too well throughout my life. Even in my second language, German, it’s evident im sort of a “parrot” when it comes to learned social phrases.

Socially exhausted right now and feeling like an alien.

  • VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 month ago

    The best way is to ask questions about something that the person obviously puts thought into.

    “Those shoes are sweet, where did you get them?”

    “Gnarly hair dude, who’s your stylist?”

    “Yo this chicken piccata you made is tubular man.”

    Be engaged and ask follow up questions, people love talking about themselves. Soon enough you’ve gotten to know them, and you just say hey and be friendly every interaction after.

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        1 month ago

        Be Keanu in Point Break, catch the bad guys, get the girl, make friends, profit. A playbook as old as time.

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        1 month ago

        I see you picked up on the subtext, don’t forget the hand Mario World had in that too (and don’t forget to mention the chicken piccata, that’s the important part) 😉

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      1 month ago

      I like being avant- Garde and over the top when I want to get someone’s attention… This seems to break people out of their robotic work responses, and it gives others a chance to show their fun side.

      Giving compliments is fun, but I feel sometimes people think I’m complimenting them for one in return!