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Cake day: March 18th, 2025

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  • Making squares into a blanket is a great way to do it :) And the squares themselves can be very satisfying just because they go from casting on to finished so quickly. It’s nice to have something that works up fast, especially if you’ve got bigger things also on the go.

    Here’s a close-up of part of the underside:

    And you can see a little more detail here (the flowers are the centre parts of big squares for the border that I’m working on adding):







  • Just three stitches! Well, technically, four, but the last one is just a very simple variation on double crochet (going around the post instead of on top of the stitch).

    I’ve done it in a couple of different yarn weights & blends and it’s a very forgiving pattern as long as your hook is suitable to the yarn. I recommend a single-colour yarn or one with a very long gradient to show off the stitching; shorter gradients will look a bit mottled.

    Here’s the first one I did, in a 2-weight 100% cotton:

    And a rectangular version in progress which is 100% merino and probably about a 4-weight:




  • Aw dude, no, flip it around: I can’t imagine having a sexual relationship with someone I’m not romantically entwined with. Real intimacy is about so much more than sex – sex is part of it, but it’s also about trust and openness and what you’ve lived through together… It’s a whole package and you’re focusing on one small aspect & not even looking at the rest.

    I’ve been married 13 years. We’re aging. I birthed three kids and my stomach looks bizarre now. We’ve got grey hair, we’ve both had a variety of body shapes and sizes over the years… our love has only grown and the sex has never been better. Don’t take your friend’s anecdote as something that happens to everyone. It doesn’t. (You should talk to someone who works in a senior’s home sometime; people our grandparents’ age are still sexually active despite being pretty far from the bloom of youth!)

    I agree with a lot of the other commenters that people in their 20s are nice to look and and can be fun to talk to but also seem like children to me at this point. I couldn’t even imagine pursuing someone so much younger than me; mentally and in terms of experience we’re way too far apart.

    Ps. Don’t look at who you’re most physically attracted to & assume everyone feels the same way. I’ve always thought that men hit their peak around age 55.






  • The Rest is History (history podcast with both mini-series… serieses… series… and one-off episodes)

    Clear Eyes Full Hearts (Friday Night Lights rewatch)

    The Line (Canadian politics – there are a number of podcasts with this or a similar name, so you’re looking for the one by Jen Gerson and Matt Gurney)

    Stories Podcast (short stories for children; my kids like this a lot for road trips)

    Old Books with Grace (old/very old book talk with a medievalist)