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Cake day: December 9th, 2023

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  • I’ve been on both sides of this scenario, but I’ll explain why I have flaked in the past to maybe help you understand why it could happen.

    1. The individual suddenly becomes impatient/aggressive within the time that was given. Not only is this a big turnoff in general, it is also concerning and leads me to reconsider the safety of the scenario.

    2. The individual communicates well up to the point i confirm the meet. Suddenly, they are taking a significant amount of time to respond, so i assume they are not interested or asleep. I will sometimes wake up to find they were messaging long after we last talked, almost as if they decided to flake, but wanted it to appear as if I did.

    3. Their demeanor completely changed once we agreed to meet. To be clear, I mean they suddenly become very disrespectful and demeaning. I don’t know them, so to move to that type of interaction without discussion or prior involvement makes that person unsafe in my opinion.