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Cake day: June 13th, 2024

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  • To add to what @[email protected] was saying above, you usually also have the right to work fewer hours if you have as small child (unpaid), but I’m not sure about the caveats. I work 75% through that mechanism. In my case it’s not really a choice; if I’d work 100% like my wife too many chores wouldn’t get done. I also wouldn’t be able to do that on the amount of sleep and rest I’m getting (a few hours too few and almost none).

    I should also add that you are explicitly only given subsidised childcare when doing paid wage work. You’re not allowed to for example pop in and do some shopping on the way to pick-up, which I presume most people do anyway from time to time because who is going to check.

    This system is nice in the traditionally social democrat smoke stack sense of allowing you and everyone else the freedom to do paid wage work at the factory and very little else. With a more or less private system you’re paying for the service of “please take care of my children”, which means that the marginal cost of “please take care of my child for an extra hour while I talk to my wife/go shopping/clean at home” is huge by comparison, but what you get for that is a greater degree of equality and availability.

    I write the last part mainly to work against the stereotype of Sweden as a socialist utopia; sure this is a socialist policy, but it’s a pretty boring one that’s very 1950s.








  • Our 21-months old torpedo jumped my wife, who was quietly drinking tea in our sofa. Naturally, my wife did the only safe thing; a controlled spill of most of her tea on the side of the sofa that didn’t have the violence toddler attacking. Seeing this, said toddler commented “mommy spilled” and kept laughing like a maniac.

    She’s also very fond of pulling out the top of whomever is holding her, shouting BOOOOB.

    Today she also saw the sun in the morning after yesterday’s thunderstorm (it’s always bright outside here now as far as she knows since the sun sets long after her bedtime and rises long before she wakes up) and yelled “look! The lamp is on!”.



  • My first is one and a half and change now and after getting out of year one, which was absolute hell for me, I kind of understand where you are. I don’t feel exactly the same as you, but I do feel a lot more hope than I’d have expected.

    My kid is a lot like @MagikShel’s youngest it sounds like, and she’s often extremely angry about my general existence, let alone any of my attempts at parenting her but in a way that comforts me because I see someone able to fight for what she wants at an early age and I’m very proud of that.