• Lumidaub@feddit.org
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    3 days ago

    “There are no people here so I tell people not to come here.”

    Do you see the issue?

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      3 days ago

      That is clearly not why they are telling people not to come here

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        2 days ago

        What is it instead? (And yes obviously what I said is a grotesquely exaggerated version of the situation as I understand it.)

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      2 days ago

      I invite you to read the comments on any post mentioning feminism (in a community not specifically about feminism) and tell me if you’d, in good conscience, invite your female friends over here. I love lemmy, but ngl, when it comes to gender issues, this site is a shithole for the most part

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        2 days ago

        Sure, I suppose. And that state of affairs won’t change if more women who might be able to put up some resistance don’t join. Maybe not your 14 year old cousin who’s in the middle of a major depressive episode but it’s not like all women will have a psychotic break when they are confronted with idiots. I can deal with it fine and I’m not exactly a paramount of mental health.

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          2 days ago

          So can I, and that’s why you and I are here. But “come into this space that’s actively hostile and help make it a little bit less so” isn’t exactly a great pitch. The decentralized nature certainly helps, the problem varies drastically from instance to instance

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          2 days ago

          So can I, and that’s why you and I are here. But “come into this space that’s actively hostile and help make it a little bit less so” isn’t exactly a great pitch. The decentralized nature certainly helps, the problem varies drastically from instance to instance