I’m a man, but I’ve been on the internet for a while. It literally always happens. This isn’t a Lemmy issue. It’s an internet issue. I assume it’s because people are mostly anonymous, but anywhere that has men and women, if the thread gets popular enough men will join in. Some of those men will be assholes who make themselves offended by the fact women are discussing men.

As long as you can’t verify accounts are actually women, this issue will persist. There’s not a good solution besides just having good moderators who deal with all the bullshit, but that’s hard to ask from someone for free.

The only choice is probably to make what you want to see, and then hope for the best but prepare for the worst, or accept it’s not going to exist. You can either let them win by letting harassment shut down communities or deal with them. I’m not saying you should force yourself to deal with the harassment though, because I’m sure it’s awful.