Places like the microblogging platforms of fedi like mastodon have worked for us. Reddit and Lemmy tend to be fire and forget, so making friends here whilst possible is less likely than say mastodon for example because mastodon is more about talking to people in our opinion.
There’s also things like Matrix (or Discord) communities which might work especially since DMing is relatively easy and well supported compared to this place.
So I’m on mastodon but I don’t use it much. I’ve not really connected there. In my experience it’s like screaming into the void, which was very similar to my twitter experience before leaving that shithole. I did have some social connections on twitter but they were people I knew irl in college back from like 2006 when twitter came out. Maybe I have to post more about stuff instead of just non sequiturs and dumb jokes. I do pixel fed too but tbh that place feels a bit ghost towny atm
The other inherent problem with online socialization for me is that I’m older, late 30s. I work a non traditional job as a self employed counselor so I have the ability to fuck around on my phone and shit post a bit more, like if a client cancels mid day. But when I do have a brief interaction with someone online (even something like this one tbh) there’s a nagging voice in my head that’s like “most people online aren’t like you, you are lucky to have the flexibility you do, there is a decent chance this person is half your age” and then it’s like ohhh maybe I don’t want to encourage a deeper social connection here. It does not help that as part of my job I talk to a not insignificant number of young adults that were groomed online. This is my own shit to sort out though. Thanks for reading my blog, I guess
Places like the microblogging platforms of fedi like mastodon have worked for us. Reddit and Lemmy tend to be fire and forget, so making friends here whilst possible is less likely than say mastodon for example because mastodon is more about talking to people in our opinion.
There’s also things like Matrix (or Discord) communities which might work especially since DMing is relatively easy and well supported compared to this place.
So I’m on mastodon but I don’t use it much. I’ve not really connected there. In my experience it’s like screaming into the void, which was very similar to my twitter experience before leaving that shithole. I did have some social connections on twitter but they were people I knew irl in college back from like 2006 when twitter came out. Maybe I have to post more about stuff instead of just non sequiturs and dumb jokes. I do pixel fed too but tbh that place feels a bit ghost towny atm
The other inherent problem with online socialization for me is that I’m older, late 30s. I work a non traditional job as a self employed counselor so I have the ability to fuck around on my phone and shit post a bit more, like if a client cancels mid day. But when I do have a brief interaction with someone online (even something like this one tbh) there’s a nagging voice in my head that’s like “most people online aren’t like you, you are lucky to have the flexibility you do, there is a decent chance this person is half your age” and then it’s like ohhh maybe I don’t want to encourage a deeper social connection here. It does not help that as part of my job I talk to a not insignificant number of young adults that were groomed online. This is my own shit to sort out though. Thanks for reading my blog, I guess
I do appreciate your suggestions, genuinely