• moonbunny@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    Frequent lurker here, I just have such a hard time getting my thoughts out into words that’s relevant to a conversation. Add in an irrational amount of aversion to negative feedback (real or perceived) and it just feels better to just keep scrolling.

    One day I’ll get better at this, it’s not easy when my socializing experience has been dominated with negativity both online and offline.

    • Druid@lemmy.zip
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      2 days ago

      The thing is, I feel like many people just add whatever they think and want to say to a conversation no matter how relevant or irrelevant it is to the current situation. In the end, I feel like most people on here are civil enough to not be mean-spirited towards one another unless they’re talking to bigots and stuff.

      I struggle with this quite often too - especially when it comes to topics that can be quite divide and polarising - but I always feel good once I do step out of my comfort zone and post away. There’s usually bound to be at least a couple people with whom your comment resonates with. Give it a try maybe - you’d be surprised how well it can go :)

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      1 day ago

      If it helps, people seem to be a lot more open to questions and discussion here than on sites like reddit. Its pretty refreshing.

    • frank@sopuli.xyz
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      2 days ago

      I feel you. I delete like half the comments I post and want to delete another half of what’s left before I do, for the same sounding reasons.

      I don’t think people will be a dick to you on here, and if they are it won’t be well received by anyone else.