Sorry, no sneer today. I’m tired of this to the point where I’m dreaming up new software licenses.
A trans person no longer felt safe in our community and is no longer developing. In response, at least four different forums full of a range of Linux users and developers (Lemmy #1, Lemmy #2, HN, Phoronix (screenshot)) posted their PII and anti-trans hate.
I don’t have any solutions. I’m just so fucking disappointed in my peers and I feel a deep inadequacy at my inability to get these fuckwads to be less callous.
they were geiuses who worked at caltech they can talk to women and prob respect them they arent the nerds who this applies to, fake nerds who thik they are intelligent but just above average for their locale and fail in higher education
the subtext here that ppl at prestigious universities are less likely to be misogynists… it’s not correct
The subtext is anyone educated that pursues higher education are less likely to be incels and have more human interaction, id include community college, which is free in california for the first two years if you qualify
I get the reasoning and it makes sense tbh. but having been at these places what I experienced just doesn’t reflect your theorycrafting. if my experience doesn’t line up with “well based on human nature it should be this or that way” I’m going to go with my experience every time
Being an incel and treating woman that way comes from less human interaction, as someone who was on the verge of going that way and was thinking in that direction before I made a lot of female friends, it was just lack of experience, you only interact with a few woman and you relate all woman to those few woman, you interact with a lot and you’re like oh we are just humans with variety same shit different genitals
For context my mom and sister suck, only woman I interacted with outside class and childhood (got hella introverted and stopped going outside at some point) So my assumptions about all adult woman came from how they acted, gaslighting and yelling is a pastime here. Like my sister and mom would straight up be like all woman are like this so goodluck, no they werent lol
Unfortunately the stereotypical asocial shut-in types are not the only ones harboring misogynist attitudes. Unfortunately actually interacting with women doesn’t always make people have respect for them. Either way, there are a bunch of loner types with poor social skills in higher education.
“Elite” institutions such as Caltech are constantly mired in discrimination issues, and frankly I think some of that is perpetuated by the whole narrative of their supposed prestige to begin with. The need to remain at the top causes such places to turn a blind eye to smart or highly acclaimed people’s misbehavior and lets their biases show in selecting who to let in. Caltech in particular is an engineering oriented school and that field in particular has an ongoing history of hostility to women and minorities.
On a more personal note, I’m glad you’ve had the introspection to recognize your upbringing-related issues with women and that you’ve seemingly worked to get over those issues. That said, I’d recommend you to avoid things like using genitals as a synecdoche for gender, It reduces people to mere sex objects and bringing up people’s genitals when not called for is generally considered crude and embarrassing.