Women are trained to not value ourselves, and put ourselves down. What makes you stand out?

  • RainaLillius@lemm.ee
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    22 hours ago

    Nothing. I’m very basic, boring, and generally go completely unnoticed.

    I’m a trans woman who used to live in texas, so blending in a more self defense than anything else. Since I’ve moved to a safer state I have begun occasionally wearing something a bit more brave. Heels really make me stand out as I’m already 5’ 10". But old habits can be hard to break.

  • Elaine Cortez@lemm.ee
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    1 day ago

    Being the only girl in IT class, it makes me stand out when I’m the only one making games at home for fun and presenting them in class to my teacher. My IT teacher was very impressed and even recommended that I go into the gaming industry!

    • I was forced to use Linux for about five months at home (for complicated reasons). I am in awe of anybody who can make that work for them. I was fortunate enough to have an SO on hand who is an engineer so he could fix the problems I kept running into or I would have been without a computer at all for five months.

  • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOPM
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    2 days ago

    I’m usually the one to help someone, but I do it on the quiet, I keep secrets a secret. People’s privacy is important to me. That puts me above others.

    I know a lot about domestic abuse, and don’t often meet people that know more. I’ve really researched the field, and learned a lot. It really helps me help others

    I’m different, a bit quirky and get called eccentric. I love that about myself! Diamonds are different but they’re worth a bomb.

  • Ohmari@lemmy.zip
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    2 days ago

    I could say, that attention for what? Just the way you look or act? Is there any value in that? What does that attention give you? Does it somehow indicate or elevate your value? And what does it say about you that you seek it out?

    All that to say, what do you mean by the question and what are the underlying assumptions?

    I don’t really want to stand out. I want to exceed my own expectations, but attention is not really something I want. My own perception of myself is not perfect, but I do value myself and I know I am capable. And I know others don’t always see it. But the answer to that is to entangle your self-worth from how others perceive you. Exist on your own, independent from the perception of others.

    And I don’t want to compare myself to other women and point out how I am different. What’s the good in that? They are a person in themselves and so am I. We both have a complex human nature.