I have my own struggles with BPD and depression, and I know how hard it can be to meet others’ expectations, especially when those expectations are not perfectly clear. Some days it’s all I can do to get out of bed. I imagine it’s just as hard for people with Autism to meet expectations of people who give ambiguous instructions, or are inconsistent with messaging. I’m guilty of communicating my needs poorly, and I understand that some of this frustration is my fault. But I am fucking tired of Autistic people ignoring what I say, interrupting me, asking me to repeat myself, cutting me off, throwing away my suggestions, and just generally being selfish in conversation. They’re so demanding. I have two colleagues that I work with regularly that are on the spectrum and they’re both a nightmare, I dread seeing them. I’d rather not work with Autistic people at all.
Understood but…your post title is (as of writing this comment) is “Autistic people are selfish and I’m frustrated every time I work with them”. So right off the bat, it seems like you’re about to talk about autistic people as a group. Then in the body of your post, you said nothing to suggest that you weren’t talking about autistic people in general. Sure you talked about your two autistic colleagues, but you said nothing to suggest that these two autistic colleagues are not representative of autistic people overall.
So I think we’re absolutely justified to stand up for ourselves here.
And again, I’m trying to be patient here, but only because I have the energy to be patient today and give you the benefit of the doubt. So you need to be understanding if some of us are less patient with you when we are defending ourselves, even though you didn’t mean to attack us (I hope), because we have no way of telling whether you’re actually just venting or if you’re a bigot using “venting” as entryism.