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  • There are two types of people, those who will respect your pronouns, and those who won’t. The people that will respect your pronouns will support you and be glad you said something. This category of people does not want to make you feel bad about yourself.

    This is where it gets dicey, though. Well-meaning people can take it too far, make too much of a spectacle of something that should be very simple. They don’t want to embarass you or exacerbate a socially awkward conversation, but by being too enthusiastic to be an ally, they can make it much worse.

    The people who won’t respect you are pieces of shit humans, and it would be easy to just write them off entirely. The problem is they might be coworkers or managers or clients or vendors. They might be in-laws or neighbors or friends of friends or distant relations. They might hate you. They might be violent towards you. And there are more of them now, and they have a lot of power right now.

    So sharing your pronouns is a risk. It’s always a risk. And that’s another thing well-meaning allies can miss about the situation.

    The best thing for all of it is honest communication and a bit of empathy. Understand that most people do support you, they just don’t always know how to best achieve that. Understand that the people who misgender you aren’t necessarily doing it on purpose, but the ones that are should be flagged as a potential problem.

    I wish there was a better answer that worked in all situations. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith, and sometimes that leap will be met with hostility.

    But every time you do, you are creating the pathways for future generations. It’s hard because nobody does it, and exposure is the best source of empathy. Take pride in being your authentic self, and stand up for you and for everyone like you who has or will faced the same decision. But also, don’t be ashamed if you choose to remain silent. It’s a scary world, and you don’t owe anyone the chance to hurt you.


  • If the tutor was being deliberately insensitive, that’s awful. If the tutor was just being regular person stupid, it’s pretty funny. People make mistakes all the time, and we don’t really think about everything we say. Using the correct pronouns shouldn’t be stressful as long as you’re trying to treat people with respect and decency.

    Deliberately using the wrong pronouns is just bullying, though.


  • You know how you have to pay extra to have insurance to pay to take care of your mouth bones and your face balls? Well, what if we did that but with all the bones and stuff? Like, why are your foot bones included in the same insurance that pays for you to have knee bones or neck giblets? Why not do all the bones and stuff a la cart? And then maybe skin can be a premium add-on. We could charge separate for the red goo that’s all on the inside everywhere, and then it’s like a subscription model for having parts. We can sell it like “don’t pay for the parts you don’t have,” and people will think that they are saving money because each part costs less than the whole, but paying for everything costs more.

    -some Health Insurance board member somewhere, probably.


  • I mean, everyone is entitled to an opinion, but you’re wrong. Love and Thunder was, at minimum, a completed movie. The self-parody went way too far, and it wasted what was potentially the best villain since Loki. More Gor and less of an Australian actor trying to do a Greek accent that ended up sounding French. Also, it had screaming goats, so it was not a good movie. But it was a fully-rendered, complete film with some cool visuals and at least a semblance of an engaging story.

    Jane is dying of cancer, and becoming Mighty Thor protects her but also accelerates her demise.

    What about the nature of power, and who is ultimately responsible when bad things happen?

    Is faith justified by the (in)actions of higher beings?

    What does it mean to be “worthy”?

    Love and Thunder was the third act of Thor’s character arc, where he discovers what is important, and what his purpose is. Is he a hero? A king? A protector? A petulant braggart? A leader? A killer? A God? What does he really want to be? What would he wish for?

    He finds the ulitmate boon, the thing he’s been looking for since the first Thor movie, his life’s purpose. He returns “home” fully changed and seeking new adventures not for glory, but to break the cycle of oppression sought by the powerful.

    Love and Thunder is not well done, and the message is muddled, but Quantumania is just bad. There are a few funny bits, Paul Rudd is always charming, and Kang was portrayed by a good actor who may or may not be a bad person (not the point of this discussion). But it suffered from the same self-parody problem as Thor, and it didn’t look good. The quantum realm wasn’t interesting, the story was internally inconsistent, ants developed weapons and saved the day because time shenanigans(!?), MODOK happened and was a huge disappointment (I did laugh out loud at him becoming an Avenger), and it all looked like they were rehearsing scenes while they waited for the sets to be done being built. Quantumania was an aggressively bad movie with almost no redeeming qualities or character development. Cassie grows a bit (pun intended), and Scott learns to see her as a young adult (and, dare I say, a Young Avenger), Janet slays some of the demons from her past, Hank learns his wife was fucking tiny Bill Murray, Hope is also in the film, and Kang is set up to be the next big threat to the Avengers Multiverse (except forget that bit because reasons). The stakes could literally not be smaller.

    Isn’t it likely that in the microsecond after they all return to human size, the ants developed a whole new oppressive civilization using the remnants of Kang’s technology and their own, subjugated all the subatomic residents, and are a potential threat to the larger universe? Kang was going to escape, why not the techno-ants?

    All the post-Endgame movies and shows have been about introducing the Young Avengers lineup. Wiccan and Speed, Patriot, Hawkeye II, America Chavez, Kid Loki, plus Ms Marvel, Phyla Vell, Skaar, and Riri. Obviously Stature will be there, but I would argue that Love is set up to bring more to the table both in power set and pathos.

    That’s not to say Love and Thunder was a good movie. But it had good within, and isn’t that what really makes us all worthy?





  • I just love seeing all the books from my childhood coming to life on the big screen, and being able to talk to friends about comic book nerd stuff. Marvel, at the very least, has been respectful of the source material and given the filmmakers resources to create an interconnected universe. I don’t care if they make a few stinkers as long as they keep trying to make better movies.

    Sony and DC both have transparently disrespected the source material and the fans. They have made bad decisions about how to bring those comics to life, and created films that were inexcusably bad.

    DC at least makes me hopeful with the new Superman trailers, but I’ll reserve judgement until I actually see it.




  • Pretty sure every scam promises refunds. That’s not proof that it is a scam, but it’s equally not proof that it isn’t a scam.

    They’re charging money for access to the inner circle. I don’t know you or the program, but that one piece of information would be enough for me to doubt everything else. That doesn’t mean they aren’t offering some nuggets of wisdom. Any profitable scam will sprinkle in something valuable, like the single hundred dollar bill on the top of a pack of newspaper cut and wrapped to look like a stack of bills.

    Hell, early investors in pyramid schemes and ponzi schemes do very well before everything falls apart.


  • I’m hoping we get more Ms. Marvel where she explored the full strength of the Nega Bands.

    And the Kree were clearly targeting planets that didn’t just have air and water, they were trying to hurt Captain Marvel. The movie didn’t do a great job at expanding on the idea, but Dar-Benn (had to look that up) was on a revenge mission. I don’t know if it was the actress or the writing, but she was just so forgettable that it was hard to keep track of her motivations. But first she went after the Skrulls, then the planet where Captain Marvel’s husband lived, then the Earth. The fact that she killed millions of Skrull refugees and billions of singing people didn’t seem to bother anyone too much.

    But even factoring in all of those problems, it’s nothing as bad as Shazam 2 or fucking Madame Web, I just cannot get past how shitty that god-damned movie was. There wasn’t one single redeeming quality about the movie. Black Adam at least gave us a decent Doctor Fate. Flash bright back Keaton for Batman. Sure, those characters

    Flash and Black Adam Spoilers

    Neither movie is worth your time, and also those characters died.