I just got in an argument with my mom today (she’s white, I’m mixed-race Filipino + white) over the Supreme Court case. She doesn’t think I’m at risk of deportation. Flips will eventually be on the chopping block as Whitey moves down the list of minorities since deportations won’t actually solve any problems (often making them worse, in fact). I tried explaining to her people with birthright citizenship have already been deported. Laws and rules don’t matter because if they did, every white person would be deported back to Europe. We all know that’s never going to happen.
The topic of my dad’s side of the family living in the US came up. His first ex-wife is here, along with a few of my oldest siblings. I pointed out they’re all at a serious risk of deportation, which means I’ll be responsible for my niece and nephew. Again, more denial and deflection. Then the mask slipped.
“[Your dad’s ex-wife] may be a necessary sacrifice and it makes sense.”
I managed to not throw my dinner plate at her face and stayed calm with “There shouldn’t be any ‘sacrifices’ at all.” She then got real quiet and is now throwing a temper tantrum because she showed her whole ass, knows she got caught, and wishes I’d be a good little removed who agrees with her it’s not our problem.
I am so fucking ready to be done with this side of my family. If I wasn’t disabled and reliant on them for help, I would have fucked off by now. It’s really shitty to say, but I can’t wait until she finally fucking croaks, I get an inheritance, sell the house, and leave. She should fucking know better, being a woman who had to deal with sexual harassment and not being allowed to have her own bank account for the first twenty-something years of her life. But no. Fuck everyone else, she just wants to have what’s hers while reactionaries go to town on the rest of us. She thinks white privilege applies to me and that I should take advantage of it.
These last few years have made me rethink everything I thought I knew about my family’s history. My mom’s mom was genuinely one of the worst people I’ve ever met, another white woman born into a world where she couldn’t even vote, yet was horrifically racist, misogynistic, and antisemitic. I thought for most of my life, my mom had managed to lose these beliefs inflicted on her by her mother. Nope! It’s all crackkkers all the way down.
Sorry for ranting. It’s just so incredibly frustrating hearing people from other marginalized groups reinforce and simultaneously downplay white supremacy.
I just got in an argument with my mom today (she’s white, I’m mixed-race Filipino + white) over the Supreme Court case. She doesn’t think I’m at risk of deportation. Flips will eventually be on the chopping block as Whitey moves down the list of minorities since deportations won’t actually solve any problems (often making them worse, in fact). I tried explaining to her people with birthright citizenship have already been deported. Laws and rules don’t matter because if they did, every white person would be deported back to Europe. We all know that’s never going to happen.
The topic of my dad’s side of the family living in the US came up. His first ex-wife is here, along with a few of my oldest siblings. I pointed out they’re all at a serious risk of deportation, which means I’ll be responsible for my niece and nephew. Again, more denial and deflection. Then the mask slipped.
“[Your dad’s ex-wife] may be a necessary sacrifice and it makes sense.”
I managed to not throw my dinner plate at her face and stayed calm with “There shouldn’t be any ‘sacrifices’ at all.” She then got real quiet and is now throwing a temper tantrum because she showed her whole ass, knows she got caught, and wishes I’d be a good little removed who agrees with her it’s not our problem.
I am so fucking ready to be done with this side of my family. If I wasn’t disabled and reliant on them for help, I would have fucked off by now. It’s really shitty to say, but I can’t wait until she finally fucking croaks, I get an inheritance, sell the house, and leave. She should fucking know better, being a woman who had to deal with sexual harassment and not being allowed to have her own bank account for the first twenty-something years of her life. But no. Fuck everyone else, she just wants to have what’s hers while reactionaries go to town on the rest of us. She thinks white privilege applies to me and that I should take advantage of it.
These last few years have made me rethink everything I thought I knew about my family’s history. My mom’s mom was genuinely one of the worst people I’ve ever met, another white woman born into a world where she couldn’t even vote, yet was horrifically racist, misogynistic, and antisemitic. I thought for most of my life, my mom had managed to lose these beliefs inflicted on her by her mother. Nope! It’s all crackkkers all the way down.
Sorry for ranting. It’s just so incredibly frustrating hearing people from other marginalized groups reinforce and simultaneously downplay white supremacy.
No, the ranting is extremely appreciated.
Shit like this needs to be said.