FriendOfDeSoto
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Ich wollte meine immer schon mal grün streichen.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•how did you and your partner change after having a baby?English201·12 hours agoIf you enter into starting a family, adding kids through whatever means, and you think this should not alter the relationship, you have another think coming. Kids are hard work. First your focus is to keep them alive and out of trouble. And over time this gradually shifts towards them not becoming a-holes. This takes energy and time, a lot of it. And that’s the most common reason why some couples have much less bedroom fun. They’re exhausted. They’re stressed. People behave differently when they’re exhausted and stressed. Raising kids is a marathon, not a sprint. Ideally, it’s a series of never ending gut wrenching crises until they move out. And truth is it doesn’t even end there. Some relationships handle this better, some don’t. None stay the same. If you think that your current childless relationship is any indication of how this would work with children, and you measure it by loving attention and how much sex you’re having you’re looking at the sky to measure the sea level. Get your head out of the clouds. You have to look at how you handle problems under pressure together. How you can support each other and not look at it as transactional. If that works, you stand a chance of a less bumpy transition into a functional family life.
Of course, every relationship is different. There are many other factors that will play a part and make shit even more complicated. I’m fairly confident though that I’m more right than wrong here with my generalizations.
You couldn’t survive such a radical personality change? Yours changed too. You will probably not win any argument on the assumption that your partner changed into a version is their folks while you stayed the exact same. You’re just the frog in the pot who didn’t notice it got hotter.
I’m a still married father of two.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Someone should convince Trump to wear colorful robes or a uniform and a fancy hat.English5·14 hours agoBut we already know what to expect thanks to Stormy Daniels.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•"Betrothal" (getting engaged) is an anagram for "at brothel".English3·2 days agoIt’s where all good engagements start!
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No, I mean engagements to marry.
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Is it just me? It’s just me, is it. Oh, okay.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•"Betrothal" (getting engaged) is an anagram for "at brothel".English4·2 days agoqA fA qing plaH! Today is a good day to die!
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Does an Influx of Former Reddit Users create a Shift in Athmosphere?English3·2 days agoI do not sense this. Your experience is your own. Just keep in mind you’re looking at a sliver of the whole thing at the best of times. You’re too tiny a dataset, especially considering you just made the sensible swap.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•An alternative spelling of the alphabet that makes more senseEnglish2·2 days agoIt would also make more sense to divide the day into something decimal but some base twelvers showed up first. It would also make more sense to stop using measurement systems where 12 hooplas equal 1 boink. The alphabet is just another thing like that. It’s been stolen and rewritten and now we are stuck with it. You can write an alternative sound map to help new learners. But the 26 letter order is here to stay.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•why polish teens seem to like russian culture more than polish adults?English34·2 days agoI get that. It’s just the constellation of stuff here. Polish youths in considerate numbers falling in love with Russian culture is a bit like saying 9/11 firefighters are turning to Islam for guidance. Not that both scenarios would be inherently bad, they’re just not very likely. That’s why I asked for more than hearsay.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•why polish teens seem to like russian culture more than polish adults?English68·3 days agoCan you back this up with anything but personal observation? There is nary a country in Europe that is under threat of a Russian invasion as much as Poland, now that they’re already in Ukraine. Right wingers all over Europe are very pro-Russian - except in Poland. History looms large in a country whose neighbors split it 3 times. It’s obviously possible that Polish younglings, unburdened with things like history, like the culture. You are well within you rights to separate the culture from its people’s history or what the current government is like. But I have a hard time imagining this as more as a passing fluke at best, or propaganda at worst.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Is there any fundamental difference between an instance and a formal website ?English5·3 days agoWhen you’re using lemmy or mastodon, you don’t have to use the website. You can use an app that goes from your fingers to the server without needing a browser and a website to exchange the information.
So most if not all the instances of the fediverse are also a website if you need to use it. But not every website is an instance of the fediverse.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Privacy@lemmy.ml•What can happen if Meta trains its AI with your info and selfies?English7·3 days agoBut you had Facebook. That’s as good as having it. They know you. Their grubby tentacles will never let go!
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Privacy@lemmy.ml•What can happen if Meta trains its AI with your info and selfies?English9·3 days agoWhether you like it or not, they probably already know who you are too. They’re collecting shadow profiles of people who haven’t signed up through various means.
If others have posted pictures of you on a meta service, there is a good chance it already knows what you look like and they know it’s you even if you’re not tagged.
People who allow them access are just less work for them. And now they have info to train their so-called AI models. Now it’s a question about what are they going to with them. The application is wide. Create fake pictures, create fake profiles, etc. And at some point we will find out about a massive data leak that happened because the company is run by unapologetic sociopaths.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Economcial, Billionaires are the biggest threat to the free marketEnglish20·3 days agoSocialism badge unlocked.
I think there may be a paradox hiding in your question. You cannot believe in free will. You have it or you don’t - I would postulate you need a neutral third-party observer to tell you. For us humans, a Martian might do. Believing is an act of faith. Faith tends to bend will to its dogmas. I would go so far as to say belief is the natural enemy of a free will.
We are distracted animals. All things being equal, the Martian observer will after years of careful study come to the conclusion that humans have free will. But it’s constantly battered by short attention spans, a tendency to go with the herd, presupposituons in our heads that we don’t often or never question, etc. We are a smartphone full of bloatware running on too little RAM. It takes skill to operate. Some are more skillful than others.
You could of course counter that by saying that’s what you believe. It’s paradoxes all the way down.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Maybe Facebook, Spotify, Twitter and the like are scamming Advertisers about interaction stats thanks to AI-powered Bots.English8·3 days agoIn their defense, they were probably lying before the advent of so-called AI as well.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.websiteto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Why do Websites hide that their articles are under a free license( Creative Commons/ free to republish in whole) ?English11·4 days agoMost media outlets prefer you come to their website or distribution service. That’s where they get most value out of possible ads. It’s where they collect their own first-person data on their users. As such I don’t find it surprising they bury this license somewhere. I’m surprised they have this policy at all. I don’t think it reflects their lack of pride in their work.
Let’s say you’re right and you’ve prevented the birth of Adolf or altered him to send him to another life trajectory. Who is to say that there wouldn’t be another mad person, naturally a man, who would rise to power and commit similar if not even worse crimes. It’s not only the person that made the fuehrer possible, it’s also everything happening in the world, especially politics at the time. So you’ve bumped Adolf but you’ve created Anton who was similarly radicalized but he wasn’t a landscape painter, he was a physics major and he made Germany develop nuclear weapons much faster. So now you have to go back and disturb Anton’s conception. Which brings about fuehrer Armin and so forth. You might be stuck in a time loop you’ll never be able to stop because you can’t control all the variables.