Hey, I am relatively young, so take this as the experience with the appropriated doubt.
Confidence will betray you if you aren’t confident. If you think that you are a man not better or worse than others with a partner, then maybe it is difficult to find confidence in that. But that is why you have to do what we all are doing … Look at the things that you are better at than most.
Personally, I know a fair bit about computers. So I take pride in that. Sure, others are probably better at it than me but I am better than most.
Now, being good with computers and knowing a lot about them is generally not what people want to talk about. But that is the neat thing… You don’t have to. I know that I am. I communicate that I am and tell them that I am open to talk about it but as usually people aren’t into it, I won’t start that topic.
That means for me 2 things, 1. My selling point is not my confidence, skill or value. My selling point is me. Either they want me or they don’t. My value is outside anything and everything that they judge. I know my value. And they see it or they don’t. 2. I don’t need to show off what I am confident in.
Those 2 things give me confidence in dating. I don’t have confidence that they want to pull me into their bed. I have confidence in myself and my value.
My gf loves me. I don’t always understand why but she seems really committed. Something about me, that I don’t know and have no confidence in, she is in love with. But that is not an issue, I can love myself for reasons different to her reasons to love me.
Confidence is important because it changes how you behave. Behavior with confidence tend to be more honest in practice. You don’t overthink whether or not to text and ask them out. You aren’t scared of losing this opportunity and feel like a white lie to save the opportunity is worth it. It gives you the ability to communicate in certainty. You say what you mean. And an “I love you” is much more appealing when there is no doubt about the truth of it. Also if your plan is a long life together… Hiding doesn’t work for 20 years.
Why do you post a list of your “political” beliefs? That is irrelevant to your own post.
But I have some comments to it.
That list is such an odd collection of beliefs. I mean 8/9 items on the list, and the age of maturity and banning smoking (I guess vapes aren’t cool with you either?) are on the same list? I mean smoking is so irrelevant compared to age of maturity or abortion rights. It seems like a top ten list of “propaganda takes that I copied from the media that I consume instead of thinking about my political views”. That would explain the next issues tho…
I am not sure you understand what “political” means in “political beliefs”.
Given 4., 7. might not be a political belief either.
I think you are trolling because
And 3. Seems very odd together. You believe that some people are struggling at their current location but also want to keep them there. (Yes, that is the logical conclusion of your stated beliefs)
Who believes that everyone needs to have an electric car? And that public transportation is not key? The cigarette and weed thing has nothing to do with the rest, so wtf is this list?
In short, I will block you, as you are trolling and trying to ruin a good thing (the vibe of community)
And I want to stress, I haven’t argued for or against your position of your beliefs because that isn’t the issue with this shit post, and I don’t think you would be able to have a conversation about your beliefs.