Getting fucked strapped down to a guillotine (with a line of guys especially) or with a gun to my head.
Snuff is really difficult for people to understand. I like being alive, but the idea that a guy could treat me as completely disposable is exhilarating. I’m fairly extreme on the masochism/submissive side of things, the challenge is always finding guys who are safe with those extreme kinks.
I’ve got a regular I had a really great time with recently - put a belt around my neck before he walked in, let him talk about how far he could go (while not actually pulling hard - breath play is always dangerous…)
Being passed around at a party and thrown into a dumpster afterwords is another of those “probably impossible” fantasies.
I’ve heard of setups where a guillotine has been constructed with a bar across the bottom behind where the neck would go so that when the moment is right, i assume when one or both of you are cumming, your partner can pull the lever and you get a nice satisfying thud as the blade hits the bottom.
Danger in general is sexy time spice, my gf is VERY into hard choking. We’ve had to tone it down a bit as we’ve become more experienced with it though
I talked to a guy online once about a similar set up - I’m honestly considering taking a furniture making class to make my dreams come true there. Or convincing one of my regulars to make one for me.
Hard choking is something I’ve done - I got scared when my ex choked someone else unconscious on accident and almost killed them, so I’m a little reluctant to go for it now. It does feel so amazing though - the only time I’ve ever came from penetration was being strangled and beat on a fucking machine. I know that I would totally let a guy off me in the moment because it’s like nothing else 😅
If you know someone in woodworking then go for it. just make sure you test it thoroughly before you stick your head in it.
I choked her unconscious accidentally once during sex while she was on top of me, let go the second she went limp and she came around momentarily. We both agreed it was deeply hot but would be a bad idea to do again. It’s a shame there’s no real safe way of doing it.
I was choked unconscious once, as a stupid novice grappler who didn’t tap out when I should. It was wild waking up from what felt like a deeply restful sleep, and realizing that for some reason I was on a mat instead of my bed, and there was a circle of people around me. It took me half a minute to remember how I got there. 😅
how did you feel about it after?
I want to feel attractive to somebody I’m attracted to. The hair-twirling, blushing, lip-biting, giggling, restless-foot kind of attraction. It can feel euphoric just talking and flirting with a woman, even when there’s no romantic prospect, so I think that would be a stratospheric experience. But I was never that kind of attractive even when I was young, and now I’m old, so I doubt it’ll ever happen.
You are a guy? And straight? I’m a lady, and honestly it’s not looks, it’s a look, if that makes sense - you only have to be acceptable looking to be attractive like that. The only guys that have got me flirty that way, none of them were particularly good looking. It was the way they looked at me that set it off. I knew it didn’t need to go anywhere, it’s just fun sometimes.
I do understand why you would want that, it’s very validating feeling. Even though superficial and light.
Yes, I’m a straight, cis man. It makes sense, and I’ve heard the similar sentiment, “just be confident,” before. I believe it, and it’s not surprising to me that I wouldn’t have “the look.” (Long story.) I’d love to hear specifics, because nobody has been able to explain what being confident actually means in practice, and I’ve spent more than 25 years now trying to figure it out. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve thought I’d cracked the code, only to fail again.
Honestly, though, based on my experience I feel that physical looks still have a lot to do with it.
Hey, I am relatively young, so take this as the experience with the appropriated doubt.
Confidence will betray you if you aren’t confident. If you think that you are a man not better or worse than others with a partner, then maybe it is difficult to find confidence in that. But that is why you have to do what we all are doing … Look at the things that you are better at than most.
Personally, I know a fair bit about computers. So I take pride in that. Sure, others are probably better at it than me but I am better than most.
Now, being good with computers and knowing a lot about them is generally not what people want to talk about. But that is the neat thing… You don’t have to. I know that I am. I communicate that I am and tell them that I am open to talk about it but as usually people aren’t into it, I won’t start that topic.
That means for me 2 things, 1. My selling point is not my confidence, skill or value. My selling point is me. Either they want me or they don’t. My value is outside anything and everything that they judge. I know my value. And they see it or they don’t. 2. I don’t need to show off what I am confident in.
Those 2 things give me confidence in dating. I don’t have confidence that they want to pull me into their bed. I have confidence in myself and my value.
My gf loves me. I don’t always understand why but she seems really committed. Something about me, that I don’t know and have no confidence in, she is in love with. But that is not an issue, I can love myself for reasons different to her reasons to love me.
Confidence is important because it changes how you behave. Behavior with confidence tend to be more honest in practice. You don’t overthink whether or not to text and ask them out. You aren’t scared of losing this opportunity and feel like a white lie to save the opportunity is worth it. It gives you the ability to communicate in certainty. You say what you mean. And an “I love you” is much more appealing when there is no doubt about the truth of it. Also if your plan is a long life together… Hiding doesn’t work for 20 years.
For me it’s watching my partner being dominated by other guys
Can I be your partner? uWu
unfortunately i think my current partner might not like that
Have a bunch of sexual slaves at my disposal. Have used it as inspiration and as fantasy many times, but I think in real life I would have a hard time being dominant. Also in our relationship we are both quite dominant and neither would ever be the sub, so that won’t be doable even in the sense of just one slave, let alone a few.
Maybe you should find a sub to share.
I like the idea of a slave/slaves but i imagine it would end up being a lot of work
Yeah, I’ve considered the idea of looking for a sub for both of us, but it has never really been a priority and my partner is quite vanilla all things considered, but at least we agree that if it would ever happen it would be a woman as she is at least sexually bi.
While I consider myself more on the dom side, I’ve never experienced much on it so it feels daunting to have someone trust you that way but also depend on you. It is a mental barrier that would block me I’m afraid if I tried it. And as you put it, also a lot of work. For the moment, I’m OK leaving it as fantasy, not all fantasies need to be achieved :)
I’m straight and subbing for a couple is the only way I’d enjoy lady-sex, maybe you really should try it, it would be fun I bet. Also you don’t need to be bi to enjoy domming a man together. Especially someone who might enjoy humiliation.
@RBWellsV23 @evil_mal would you be agnostic about which member of the couple has control, or the hierarchy between the three of you? For example, would you enjoy being required to pleasure her more if it was at his insistence?
I very much respond more to guy doms. Would enjoy a couple sort of ganging up on me though, and can’t be the only straight lady who feels like that. So either one I think, just be a toy to use for awhile, right? I don’t have to enjoy all of it sexually to enjoy the whole experience.
I think they should try it, that it would probably be more fun & less work than they think. Really, you can always do stuff like watch a movie together and make her serve, not let her on the couch, right? It doesn’t have to be a just a marathon sex thing. Treat her like a pet or toy.
@RBWellsV23 it absolutely doesn’t have to be all overtly sexual. Underlying servitude and humiliation, being a toy, is always sexuality: if they own you then they also own your sex and just the implicit understanding that they could choose to use you sexually as they please is enough to charge the atmosphere and the dynamic.
You could just be their footstool, you could be exposed, you could be subject to impromptu wetness checks, you could just be their house girl. The effect is the same
Being with a woman that is turned on by mommy roleplay.
Ha! i keep calling my partner “mummy”
she hates it
just how many wives do you have?
Two! Finally made it official this year, after twenty years with one (my first girlfriend), and the other having been with us for thirteen.
