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Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.al to Ask@lemm.eeEnglish · 1 day ago

What's a red flag in someone?

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What's a red flag in someone?

Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.al to Ask@lemm.eeEnglish · 1 day ago
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  • TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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    Being religious.

    It’s kinda sad to put it that way, but I’ve found almost universally that devoutly religious people are borderline incapable of actual critical thought

  • 🇨🇦🇩🇪🇨🇳张殿李🇨🇳🇩🇪🇨🇦@ttrpg.network
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    In dates or other social situations:

    • treating service staff badly
    • talking about themselves to exclusion of all other topics
    • ordering for you without your input
    • acting as if they’re doing you a favour by dating you.
    • quotes anything from incel, MGTOW, or other manosphere sources
      • especially Joe Rogan
    • freeze peach fanatic
    • uses words like “woke” or any of the other alt-right bugaboos without ironic intent
    • acts like the word “feminist” is a dirty word
    • uses racial slurs
    • “Asian women are my fetish” (yes, I’ve had people—plural—use that with me)
    • volunteers religious identity without it being the topic of discussion
    • toxic negativity
    • toxic positivity
    • doesn’t read
    • doesn’t listen to music
    • has no opinions that aren’t slogans

    … and a cast of thousands …

    Wow. I’ve built up quite the suit of armour over the years.

    • sit@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      21 hours ago

      What’s a freeze peach? An anime?

      • 🇨🇦🇩🇪🇨🇳张殿李🇨🇳🇩🇪🇨🇦@ttrpg.network
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        16 hours ago

        Already answered. See if you can’t find it.

    • Reddfugee42@lemmy.world
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      1 day ago

      Freeze peach what now

      • 🇨🇦🇩🇪🇨🇳张殿李🇨🇳🇩🇪🇨🇦@ttrpg.network
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        1 day ago

        Say it out loud.

        • Reddfugee42@lemmy.world
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          24 hours ago

          🙄

          • 🇨🇦🇩🇪🇨🇳张殿李🇨🇳🇩🇪🇨🇦@ttrpg.network
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            22 hours ago

            Red flag spotted.

            • Reddfugee42@lemmy.world
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              If thinking that writing it as “freeze peach” for no good reason is cringey, I’m self selecting out of your dating pool 😅

              • 🇨🇦🇩🇪🇨🇳张殿李🇨🇳🇩🇪🇨🇦@ttrpg.network
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                It serves the purpose of triggering the freeze peach fanatics who get this feeling I’m mocking them.

                As for the dating pool, you’d already selected yourself out with your jingoism.

            • sit@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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              21 hours ago

              La mao

  • Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Red Flags (if I don’t blatantly show disgust, I’ll probably ghost you after observing this stuff):

    • Littering
    • Treating animals like objects
    • Treating staff in restaurants and shops etc. like trash
    • Being into manosphere shit or treating any podcaster / influencer / asshat with a microphone like they’re a guru
    • Interest in conspiracy theories and/or ‘free speech’ aka actions without consequences
    • Crying about wokeness or women or queer people

    Amber Flags (I’m a bit put off but I don’t want to judge a book by its cover so I’ll get to know you first):

    • Subscribing to a religion
    • Having no neck, a red face, short / no hair, tribal tattoos and walking like you’ve got an invisible water bottle under each arm
    • Being a constant ‘positivity’ person

    Edit: I feel like that’s a lot. Maybe I just hate everyone lol. Maybe I’m the red flag.

    • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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      Conspiracy theories is a good one, it can be a sign of serious MH conditions. Some theories border on clinical paranoia

      • Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        Yeah and sadly the conspiracy theory scene seems to be completely taken over by bad actors with right wing agendas. That prey on these people who actually need help, rather than to be fed stories about George Soros and the deep state and microchips in vaccines etc.

        • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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          Yep it’s really scary.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 @pawb.social
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    They pour the milk before the cereal.

    • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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      I said red flag, not sign of a psychopath

    • LostXOR@fedia.io
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      1 day ago

      You add milk to your cereal?

    • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip
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      Damn. Am I excused if i have only so much milk left and do it to not end up with dry ass cornflakes?

      • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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        No, add small amounts of water to stretch it like a normal person.

      • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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        Then and only then. But it should pain you to do it.

  • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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    An adult that often doesn’t accept when they’re wrong, glosses over it or shifts the blame. Yes, it’s part of growing up but past a certain age it’s a terrible sign in someone.

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      Such person is unfit for marriage or friendship

      That’s not a red flag that’s a deal breaker.

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    Mocks others, gets angry at jokes about them.

    • 🇨🇦🇩🇪🇨🇳张殿李🇨🇳🇩🇪🇨🇦@ttrpg.network
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      Ooh, yeah, that’s a really good sign. Having no sense of humour about themselves is already a red flag, but pairing that with being mean to others?

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    • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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      You mean the first things to ask a new acquaintance aren’t the names of their childhood best friend, first pet, and maternal grandfather?

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        If you send me money I will explain why

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    Unnecessary aggression or assholery.

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    Kisses their dog on the lips, but does not french the cat.

  • gjoel@programming.dev
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    Fatal, depending on point and depth of penetration.

    • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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      Good one dad@

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    I don’t specifically have any. I just trust my feelings and am open and honest as possible.

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    They don’t listen to music at home.

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    They accept a lack of evidence as natural in vetting someone for their supposed wrongfulness.

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