(original art by Herta Burbe)

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      7 months ago

      Hey thanks for mentioning the artist, I found this online and didn’t have any idea who it was, I’ll update the description

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    Just recently moved and I don’t have a roommate here yet. He’s moving in at the end of the month. It’s just me and my cat. I’m lying in bed feeling like shit and depressed right now and she’s on her lil bed attached to my bed because she might as well be a fuzzy shadow. Can honestly say I’d have killed myself without her because she’s the only reason I’m not dead right now

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    7 months ago

    I get what this is saying, but I also feel like you can work on yourself to make it easier to connect with others.

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      7 months ago

      Definitely, at least when it comes to most people.

      While everyone should do it in some capacity, working on yourself can only go so far if you struggle in social situations because of the symptoms of disorders like autism or ADHD. Sometimes the difficulty to connect stems not from a problem with what the person is doing or saying, but others’ perception of it.

      But of course, the types of people they’re surrounded by can affect things a lot, too, especially when there are differences in background, culture, or belief.

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      7 months ago

      I don’t think so?

      I think it’s alluding to people having different needs, with this dog playing one small part of their complete picture.

      Maybe the other shapes are filled by friends to come, a beloved family member, more dogs, a lot more dogs, oh geez that’s so many dogs.

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      7 months ago

      I think it’s just that having a four legged friend provides some companionship. (Not that the idea of soulmates is at all useful anyway)

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      7 months ago

      Maybe not that phrasing, but there is the phrase, “You’ll find someone”. There’s the belief that there’s somebody for everybody out there, parents eventually seem to want their kids to find someone and make grandkids. I mean, given that there’s billions of us on the planet, there’s bound to be somebody compatible out there, maybe not in your zip code or country, but they’re out there.

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      7 months ago

      “Welp, we dont fit together but our marriage was arraigned by the Schizophrenic village elder because a vision told him so.”

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      I don’t quite agree. Yes, it’s not as pronounced as it is displayed here, but there’s still definitely a difference in statistical compatibility amount. If you have a very unusual life situation, with a non-neurotypical mental structure, the amount of compatible partners gets smaller and smaller compared to people that have a more “common” (specifically not using the word normal here) setup going.

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        LGBTQ+ and non standard life situation gets ya basically zero partners, too. The dating pool for MLM is already tiny compared to cishet dating. Add into that being a caregiver for your parents and it’s basically zero dudes that are willing to even consider you as a partner. :/ But I ain’t throwing mama under the bus (or from the train) for no dick. Lol

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          7 months ago

          While I have argued tor this comic being true/realistic, I vehemently reject a possible conclusion of dating pessimism based on it. I wholeheartedly believe that it’s worthwhile to try to find compatible people in any situation and no matter what kind of person you are.

          I think being gay and being a caregiver for your parents is a combination that doesn’t reduce your dating pool too much :)

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      7 months ago

      I thought that was the point. Looking at other people and thinking “it looks so simple so why can’t I…”

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        There is nothing in the art that provides evidence for the interpretation of the “simple” couple being in his imagination. For all we know, that is how they exist in their true form.

        But I suppose the point of artwork like this is to get us to talk about it and discuss various interpretations, so who am I to suggest only one way of viewing it.

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      I don’t think that’s entirely true, but even if it is, they could be accurately interpreted as one’s expectation of oneself.

      Not a healthy expectation, but a real one.

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    7 months ago

    The notion of there being someone out there who matches you perfectly or completes you is bullshit. Relationships are complex things that require hard work and compromise if you want then to work.

    This is some whiny, self-pity emo cringe and is frankly insulting to people who have made relationships work like the two on the couch who I guarantee you didn’t just fit together easily without the aforementioned hard work and compromise.

    Or it’s just a comic about a fucked up dog.

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      What counts is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.

      • Leo Tolstoy
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    7 months ago

    Life is complex. Being compatible just requires a partial match. It’s sweet that a piece of him matches up well with another life.